Word on the street is that John Mayer and Katy Perry may be back together. Who knows if that’s true? I certainly don’t know for sure. But, I will say that it’s a scientific fact that John Mayer is the most charming man on the planet. He has a magnetism about him that no woman seems able to resist. Wish he would do some private tutoring for a few of my clients! Anyway, he infamously dated Taylor Swift and then Katy Perry. If you aren’t as into Taylor Swift’s 1989 as I am, you might not know that Taylor and Katy have some serious bad blood between them. (Also, you should definitely get into 1989. It’s such a good album!) John, Katy and Taylor have a classic love triangle going on with a lot of unresolved feelings among them all. And even though these three are megawatt celebrities, the situation is way more common than you probably think. It’s a small, small world and your love relationships and friendships are bound to overlap. If you find yourself in a love triangle situation, here’s what I think you should do.
Evaluate your options
I’m all about going with your gut and following your heart when it comes to love…most of the time. This is one of the times when your brain needs to be involved in a big way, though. Love triangles get very emotional and complicated and you need to step back and think about the situation. What are you risking by pursuing this relationship and what are you giving up if you don’t pursue it? I’d recommend making a pro and con list and seriously weighing it out. Give yourself at least three days to contemplate this decision when you’re not in contact with either of the other parties of the love triangle.
Talk about it with him
I know that dissecting a relationship and planning and strategizing aren’t the traditional starting steps to a storybook romance. But, girl, your love story certainly isn’t the thing fairy tales are based on. So, get over it. Talk to the guy and make sure you’re both on the same page. Suss out what his motives are. Make sure that he’s truly over his ex and wants to move on with you and pursue the kind of relationship that you’re hoping for. Basically, before you take any more emotional or physical steps in the courtship, you’ve got to have a big, long, awkward talk. Sorry to be the one to break it to you.
Talk about it with her
Speaking of awkward talks, this one’s going to be even more awkward! Talk to your friend and let her know what’s going on in your head and heart. Hopefully she’ll understand and be grateful that you were open with her. But, even in the best case scenario, she’s going to be hurt and upset. Let her be. You can’t control how she feels about this, only how upfront and honest you are. The more forthright you are, the less she has to be angry about.
Good luck! Every love triangle is different, but the one thing they have in common is that they’re very complicated!
