Friends disagree, bicker and get into fights. That’s just part of being close to someone. When you spend a lot of time with someone and, in the immortal words of Real World, stop being polite and start getting real, there’s undoubtedly going to be friction. It’s a hard truth of friendship. And as supportive and involved as your man is of you and your life, he should not get involved. I know, he’s the most important person in your life. Why should he butt out of the biggest drama in your life? Well, here’s why.
No history – Woman Drama
The reason friendships involve fighting is because there’s intimacy there. And that intimacy breeds discord, but it also breeds forgiveness and understanding. Friends can hash things out because there’s trust and faith that the other person loves you. Sure they were annoying or hurtful, but, at the end of the day, you believe that they didn’t intentionally mean to hurt you and that they wish they hadn’t done it. You believe that because you have history with them to back that up. There’s more good than bad in your relationship. But, your man is a newer addition to this dynamic. If he gets involved in the fight, he doesn’t get that benefit of the doubt that makes it easy to forgive him. So, have him stay out of it because if he gets in, it’ll be much harder for him to get out of it than you.
More complicated
Too many cooks in the kitchen can be a problem for any number of issues and fighting among friends is one of them. When you’re in a disagreement with someone you love, like a friend, it’s important to stick to the one issue at hand and work on resolving that. You don’t want to blow up an argument into an entire chronicle of every awful thing that’s every happened to either of you. And it’s much easier to stick to the simple issue and not zoom out into non-related topics if the fight stays between the original fighters. Your man throwing his hat in the ring will just complicate everything. And simple is better when it comes to emotion.
He looks bad
Your man will look awful for butting his nose into business that isn’t truly his. And I know that he loves you and wants to help you, but the real way to help is to be supportive and listen. He doesn’t need to call your friends names or directly contact them about the issue. He’ll just wind up looking like a chump more than a good boyfriend or husband. And you’ll resolve your issue with your friend, but she’ll always remember how crummy your man seemed in the situation. Don’t give your friends any reason to not like your boo. Encourage him to back away from your drama.
Hope that’s helpful info for you and your men! You two will be much happier and your friendships will be much healthier if your man learns to keep to himself when it comes to your friend fights.
