Summertime is right around the corner, and instead of focusing on toning up your body and getting bikini-ready, I want you bone up on your relationship health for the season and think of me as your personal trainer. And my first boot camp lesson is for the single ladies. Lovely single ladies, heed my advice, don’t have a summer fling. I know it’s tempting. Board shorts, drinks with umbrellas in them and the smell of sunscreen make for an irresistible combination. But here’s why you need to step back from that fling.
Hurt feelings
When it comes to flinging, someone’s feelings always get hurt. And, spoiler alert, it’s going to be you. I’m all for a girl getting hers when she needs it. One night stands have their place. But what I’m not into is half-hearted relationships, which is exactly what flings are. You’re spending the time, effort and emotions of a relationship with none of the security, love or future. That’s a raw deal that leads to a lot of pain for at least one, if not both, of you.
Your special someone
You could be spending your summer meeting Mr. Right instead of blowing it with someone who doesn’t take himself or you seriously enough to consider a serious relationship. You’re wasting precious time with a dud when you could be spending it finding your real dude. And you know what they say, “Waste not, want not.”
Summer singledom
Being single in the summer rocks! I don’t think there’s a better season for flying solo. There’s so much to do that another person in your life who isn’t a real match will just weigh you down. Your friends have an awesome house in the Hamptons. Don’t you want to be there instead of chugging warm beer in a Jersey basement with his friends whom you’re going to de-Facebook friend after Labor Day? Be a free bird during the summer. The flying’s so good!
Self time
Summer is the perfect time to spending working on yourself and feeling great about who you are. There are long weekends, so the time is there, and there’s something about being outside in great weather that makes self-reflection a whole lot easier. Hanging out with some not-quite-right guy is going to distract from your time to figure out your priorities, build up your strength and feel amazing walking in your own shoes.
What do you all think? Am I right about summer flings being a total waste of your precious time? Anyone out there disagree with me? Anyone? Anyone? Danny Zuko?
