Time for some myth busting on PattiKnows. You know the expression, “opposites attract”? Well, it’s not always true — at least when it comes to love. In romance it’s your commonalities that make you compatible for the long haul. Of course, there will be some differences between you and your boo, even if he’s your perfect match. That’s what keeps things spicy and interesting! But there are five important factors you need to have in common for your relationship to last. I call them The Five Senses.
Sense of humor
You think Kathy Griffin is hilarious, and he can’t stand the sound of her voice. No big whoop, right? Think again, lady. Laughter is one of the main pillars of a relationship, and if your humor pillar and his humor pillar aren’t close, that makes for an unsteady base. Also, your sense of humor reveals a lot more than just what makes you chuckle. It indicates your sensibilities, your intelligence and your background. Being able to share a laugh over the same things means you two probably share a lot more.
Sense of money
Talking about money is the most uncomfortable topic in the world, especially when it’s a convo with your honey. Break through that awkwardness though and be sure you’re on the same page with your guy before you get serious. Are you guys savers, spenders, somewhere-in-betweeners? If you combine finances at some point down the road and you’re saving all of your pennies while he’s out buying new golf clubs, that’s going to lead to serious problems, that could lead to serious fights, that could lead to your relationship ending.
Sense of spirituality
Now I don’t think you have to date within your religion, but you should date someone with the same beliefs. I know, confusing. Let’s see if this clarifies anything: Take me, for example. I’m Jewish and very spiritual, but I’m not religious. I’d do much better with a spiritual, but non-religious Catholic than I would with a religious Jewish man. We need to be on the same wavelength, but it doesn’t mean we have to have the same heritage. Make sense?
Sense of family
My mother gave me these words of wisdom and I’m going to share them with you. If you want to know how a man will treat you, look at how he treats his mother. My mom always said that’s how he’ll treat his wife when the honeymoon period is over. I’m going to take it a step further and say look at how he treats his entire family. Is he close with his brother? Does he do a good job fathering his kids if he has any? Does his family spend holidays together? Be sure his current actions line up with how you envision your family life. Old habits are hard to break, and how he treats his family now is likely how he’ll treat the family you two create together.
Sensuality
You knew it was coming, right? My last point always seems to be about sex on here on PattiKnows. That’s because it’s important and always needs to be said. Make sure your sex drives and general sexual comfort zones synch up. If you’re a twice a week missionary girl and he’s an every night in the sex-swing guy, you’ve got problems. Enough said.
What do you think of my Five Senses theory? Anyone out there in an opposites attract relationship that’s going well? Comment, comment, comment!
