Bad first dates happen to everyone and if a bad first date hasn’t happened to you, it means you married your middle school boyfriend. If that’s the case, more power to you. For the rest of us, bad first dates are part of the game. Too often though, I see women get majorly bummed about a lemon of a first date. Don’t get sad about a bad first date! Here’s how to turn a bad first date into an experience you can feel good about. All you need to do is put a different lens on the situation.
You’re Doing It Right
Believe it or not, a bad date means that you’re dating right. Don’t take one bad date as an indication of your total failure at anything and everything romance. If you didn’t have a bad date every once in a while, it would mean that you’re probably not dating enough. Dating is, in some ways at least, a numbers game. You have to get through those bad dates to make it to your good dates. And just think of how much more you’ll appreciate those good dates when they come around. So, go ahead and pat yourself on the back for that bad date. You did it right!
You Have A Good Story
Anyone who’s been single for a period of time is expected to have some good old-fashioned bad date stories. And now you have one of yours! So, I say don’t rush out of a date the second you realize he’s not your forever guy. Or not even a second date guy. Stay, see what happens. It could be a funny story that you can pull out of your pocket at dinner parties!
You’re Learning
Dating isn’t just about getting out there and meeting the perfect guy. Dating is a process where you get to learn more about yourself and what you need. A bad date is just as good of a lesson in what works for you as a good date. So, take your lessons from the experience and be grateful for them. For example, did you just say yes to this date because he had hot profile pics, even though there wasn’t much of a connection when you chatted? Well, now you know that doesn’t really work out.
So, there you go, my single gals. Turn your bad date lemons into lemonade with just a little perspective shift!
