I want to take you on a journey right now to, well, probably the first lesson you ever learned from an adult when it came down to meeting boys and meeting girls.
I remember the first time my father and I sat down after I had a crush on somebody in 5th grade and she blew me off.
My father was never great with advice at all. As a matter of fact he was one of the worst advisors I have ever had.
I told him about my crush, and told him it didn’t work and I was all upset, and he looked at me and he said, “Well, girls, women, can’t live with them, can’t live without them,” and he started laughing.
My father was like a walking practical joke all the time. And that was fun at times, but here I was, a little boy, 11 years old, literally giving my entire wacky pack collection to a girl and she rejected me.
And all I wanted to hear were some wise words of wisdom.
Well you know what, turns out my dad was right!
Oh my god, women. Can’t live with them, can’t live without them. You girls probably feel the same way about men.
We frustrate the hell out each other on so many different levels.
And The Big Problem Nowadays Is That We Have Taken Gender Roles And Thrown Them Out The Window
So now we have masculine women running around doing everything that they can for themselves and not needing men at all, and we have feminine men who are so passive that they would rather swipe than even talk to a women in public.
Women are more frustrated than ever before.
Men are more passive than ever before.
So now the “can’t live with them, can’t live without them” mindset is really resonating because we have destroyed the gender roles.
As feminine as the women that I meet are, a lot of them are emotional bullies because of all the passive men that they have been with for so long. When they finally find a man that they can actually communicate with, they don’t know how to do it at all, so they end up forcing things and pushing that man into things that he is not ready for because they emotionally bully him to death.
Men, on the other hand are so passive that they don’t know what to do, and the fact is that porn is so readily available that they are just walking around sending dick pics, constantly thinking this is what women want.
Seriously.
Our Society is, Well, a Complete Mess
We really have hit a critical stage in the development of relationships where we truly don’t really understand one another.
With the advent of texting, women can constantly chat to men all day long.
I can’t tell you the countless texts I will get throughout the day from women. My women texts will outnumber my men texts 10 to 1.
It is so rare that a male friend of mine will text me during work hours. Do you want to know why?
Because he is also in battle mode.
He is out there slaying the dragon.
Making things happen.
He is out there handling things.
Making money.
Working his business.
Eating his lunch.
Reading NFL.com, whatever it might be for a break.
Women Have A Far Greater Need To Connect Throughout The Day Than Men Do
A man doesn’t need to connect with his lover, partner, wife, girlfriend much at all during the day because he is wired primally.
But women – you like to constantly update and keep us in the loop, and let us know when things are going on.
You expect us to be lovey-dovey throughout the entire day.
But in reality, we are more lovey-dovey at night than we ever are during the day because it is very hard to sit there and send you:
Oh baby schnukums.
I’m loving you so much right now.
…as our boss is breathing down our neck.
…as we are trying to close a big deal.
…as we are working on the next dragon we are slaying – it is hard to go into that emotional zone, in that emotional mode.
But you can do it on and off all day long because your emotions are wired consistently.
So A Lot Of Women Get Super Frustrated With Men Because…
…because of the way modern men – some of modern men – have been portrayed to be warm and mushy all day long.
In reality, we slay the dragon.
We come home, and slowly we get into vulnerable mode.
So don’t take the days personally. Look at the nights. Are they more consistent by night?
Is every night more mushy and great and fantastic and you guys are connecting?
If so, allow him to slay the dragon. Because when it comes down to it, we will never match each other at all, and the phrase that my dad taught me, “Can’t live with them, can’t live without them,” will always come true.
We need each other.
We just need to know how to respect one another’s boundaries and the way we operate that with a relationship.
And if we do that, we will get far more out of the relationship – both now and well into the future.
