Have you ever been asked out by a man, had to reschedule and never heard back from him again?
Do you ever feel you’re hitting it off with a man when all of the sudden things go cold?
I’ve got a few ‘magic tricks’ to help you understand the inner workings of a man’s mind. These tricks are simple but affective and it starts with affirmation.
Men need affirmation more than you can imagine.
When you meet a man for the very first time and you give him your phone number, deep down he still does not believe you want to go out with him.
Let me explain:
1. They’ve Been Punk’d Too Many Times
Most men have received many fake numbers over their lifetime. So even when they get a phone number, they’re still not sure you’re into them.
Sure, maybe you had some witty banter back and forth.
Maybe you smiled at him and did all the things you think you should do. The thing is, when you’re dealing with men, you’re still dealing with a boy, and boys need words of affirmation.
So, when you give a guy your phone number, look at him and say—
“Here’s my number. Call me, I think we’d be great to get together.”
Affirmation makes a man feel reassured. Inside his insecure brain he can say, “She’s not going to blow me off like all the other ones.”
2. Men Need (even) More Affirmation
It might sound crazy but you have to consistently affirm a man. The fact is, American men have been raised to believe their value comes from women’s opinion.
Think about the low point of the hero in a story. Men will do anything for a woman. They crawled out of their man caves for women. They’ll attempt to build you a house even if they don’t know the first thing about construction.
They need to feel desired from the get go. And it’s not about sex, it’s about feeling safe. It’s a misconception many women don’t get.
Women want to feel safe and so do men.
When a man texts you for the first time, get back to him quickly. It gives him validation that you’re interested. If you can’t get back to him quickly, get back to him when you can with an explanation of why you could not.
I know it sounds almost borderline crazy to have to do these things, but I’m telling you these little magic things work. Think about the little things past boyfriends have done to make you feel loved.
3. If Plans Fall Through, Make New Plans Immediately
When a man calls you on the phone or texts you, you won’t be available the night that he asks.
That’s life right?
We have commitments, jobs, errands to run, and families to shuffle around. He knows you have a life, but in his brain he really wants to seal the deal.
Men are all about closing, sealing the deal and getting this out of the way. They want to know when they’re going to have the date because they don’t want to be left hanging. It’s really important for them to pursue you if they know you are open to being pursued.
When a man asks you out, if you can’t make it on that night, don’t just tell him “no.”
Immediately come up with an alternate night.
Say, “Friday will not work, but I’ll tell you what, Saturday will work even better, or next Tuesday will work better.”
Give him a few options, because if not, he’s going to feel like you don’t want to go out with him. So, when you give him a few more options, it lets him seal the deal, and it’s what he’s looking for.
These are three simple little magic tricks to explore more options in your dating life.
You don’t realize how insecure men are and these simple little things will help bring out the strong man that’s inside. For an even deeper understanding of men and what we want in a relationship, check out “What Men Desire” My complete blueprint into the male mind!
