This is going to be a very powerful blog today.
It’s one that a lot of you really need to read. Expand your minds and open yourself up to a new possibility.
It’s called the Power of Self Apology.
We’ve all made mistakes in our lives.
Some glaring, some not so glaring. But we all have made mistakes.
There are some of us that live life like we’re perfect and never admit to our mistakes. I’ve been blessed to have some of those people in my life and they’re some of the most intolerable, narcissistic people I’ve ever met.
Most people can admit their mistakes. It’s what you do with those mistakes that allows you experience the most growth.
When my daughter was born, I was overwhelmed, to say the least. I wasn’t exactly father of the year. I found it a challenge to bond. As my daughter neared the age of two, I started bonding intentionally with her. It was something that I always knew would happen.
I remember talking to people and them saying she actually talks and walks and relates the same way I do.
I’m all about conversation and that was a challenge due to a lot of emotional issues that I had.
Whenever my beautiful daughter is sound asleep, I look at her and I apologize. I say I’m really sorry for not being the best dad I could have been when you were a little baby. But I look at her now and I say, I’m going to be the best dad I can be for the rest of your life. I see her beautiful face looking up at me. And that to me is constantly not letting it go.
I’ve got to apologize to myself. I made mistakes. We all have. When you forgive yourself, you are free to love and succeed.
We’ve all handled things poorly, or handled them the way we were capable of handling them at that moment.
It’s the way life works. It’s how we learn and how we grow.
I was an asshole for parts of my life, and I am all about letting that go. Loving that part of me that felt like I had to behave badly. Forgiving myself so I am free to love and be loved.
There are those in your life that will like to remind you of the mistakes you made in the past, which I’ll talk about in another blog. But when it comes down to it, as long as you can admit to yourself and apologize to yourself and you’re growing as a person… you will be free to succeed and be happy. Then you can be the best version of yourself. When you learn from your experiences, whether good or bad, you’ve actually become a more well-rounded person.
If you’re beating yourself up over things that you did to somebody else, it’s time you apologize to yourself.
It’s time you let it go.
Time to realize that you made mistakes and move forward. There are people in your life that will remind you of your mistakes endlessly. They’ll keep telling you the things you did to them years ago. They’re what I call past-ers.
They haven’t taken responsibility for anything. They’re playing a victim, and they’re not listening to you. They just want to keep having you apologize. If you’ve already apologized once, that’s sufficient.
We all make mistakes. That’s what happens in life. It’s time we start apologizing for our mistakes and growing and being a better version of ourselves. That’s truly what we want to be, the best version of ourselves.
If there are people in your life that can’t see that beautiful new version of you and they’re constantly bringing up stuff you’ve done in the past, you can’t apologize to them anymore. You need to apologize to yourself and forgive.
Forgive yourself now and move on.
If you’ve grown, you’ll stop being triggered by their jabs, because they clearly have not grown. Anybody who keeps bringing up the past is not living in the present, has not grown, has not forgiven, and certainly has not taken responsibility for anything, because what they want to do is blame.
