I’m about to expose the number one reason why you’re still single. I’m going to do so and you’re going to listen. You’re going to listen hard and you’re going to change the way you do things starting immediately.
The story I’m about to share with you might sound a little egotistical. It really isn’t. It’s to prove a point.
First I’m going to share a secret with you.
Men are all about validation. You need to validate a man right away so he’s able to flirt with you the way you want to be flirted with.
Let’s dive deeper. I’m going to share a story with you that’s going to help you understand this better.
I go to a place called Cryohealthcare in LA.
Basically, I stand in a box for three minutes at 250 degrees below zero and I freeze out all my aches and my pains.
I do this because I’ve got aches and pains from years of working out, years of playing sports, years of doing things.
I take off my shirt and jump into the tank.
I’m not saying I’m ripped, but I’m in great shape. I’ve been an athlete my whole life.
I go in there. Sometimes there’s a room full of women and not one ever looks.
That, to me, is the reason why you’re single today.
I’m not looking for an ego boost. I’m not looking for women to look at my body and go wow. I’m looking at the way our brain is wired.
Our brain is wired to look, and our brain is wired to seek validation. If a man saw you going into a room wearing a bikini top, he’s going to look at you and he’s going to smile and want to meet you and talk to you because he thinks you’re physically appealing. It’s primal and that’s the way men are driven.
But women have been trained not to look. The number one reason why men don’t approach is because you never look at them. You’re still waiting for that illusion, that fantasy. Waiting for the prince to come through thick and thin, snow and ice, and iPhones, and talking to your friends, and every other antisocial block you throw at them.
You want them to come over and talk to you and approach, get your phone number and ask you out. Problem is not many men will do that because it takes way too much courage for the majority of men. A lot of men would approach you if you simply validate them.
It’s literally the beginning of a relationship with a man. He seeks and craves validation from the woman that he loves, the woman he wants to be with. It starts the second you first see him.
The validation.
The validation is key, because all you need to do is look and smile. No need to say anything.
You don’t need to look at a guy with his shirt off and say, wow, you’ve got majorly good pecs, or love your arms.
All you need to do is look at a man and smile. If you smile, it sets off that primal instinct. He immediately is validated. He, immediately, in his little brain, thinks she’s attracted to me. It’s safe for me to approach.
When you validate a man with a smile, with a small compliment, with a hello, it triggers something inside him. That the female species is attracted to the male species. It’s extremely primal, and it’s the number one way to get men to approach you.
Go ahead, try it. Try it for a month or two, and then tell me whether or not your social life and dating life has changed. It’s the number one thing that’s going to change the way things are for you and your dating life.
