Many consider the Hand Job (HJ) a lost art form– an uncherished relic from Sophomore year of High School. When a BJ seems too ambitious, you give a dry-handed tug. The hand job is often done half-assed because people don’t put their hearts into it, and don’t use nearly enough lube.
Man mastered the hand job on himself out of necessity. He realized around age 13 how amazing his penis is, and how no one will even think about touching it for at least two years. But even if you don’t know the exact rhythm and pressure he prefers, you have the advantage of not being his left hand, and having breasts (among other things).
While the hand job might not be your go-to move in the bedroom, you should definitely give it a second chance and work it into your rotation. Sure, many guys might think, “I’ve got this, why do I need my girlfriend to give me a HJ?” Well, those are the guys who haven’t had it done the way I’m about to explain to you. It’s just like scratching an itch. Sure, you can scratch your own back, but isn’t it better when someone else scratches it for you? (Note: Do not scratch his penis. This is a metaphor.) First, try asking him what he likes and wrap your hand around his penis. You don’t want to gently pet his penis or suffocate it.
While the hand job might not be your go-to move in the bedroom, you should definitely give it a second chance and work it into your rotation.
So, get a grip:
- Make the “Ok” sign with your fingers. Wrap your fingers around his penis with your index finger or middle finger meeting your thumb. This “Ok” grip will allow you to travel the full length of his penis.
- Sausage wrap- wrap all of your fingers around his shaft with your thumb at the top or at the bottom (depending on your preference).
- If you’re feeling more than just Ok about your Hand Job skills, try using two hands making the grips above
Different strokes for different folks:
- Hold him around the base of his shaft. As you glide your fingers up over the head of his penis, tighten your grip (but not too tight).
- Before you start making your descent to the base of the penis, loosen your fingers.
- Use your other hand to caress his balls, if he’s into that kind of thing (You’ll love “the boys” if he uses DownUnder Comfort on his nether regions).
- Give his penis a twist. You can also do a double twist by twisting both hands in the same direction and then back again. Remember, some guys love the twist and other guys just want a classic Hand Job. See how he responds or ask him what he likes if he’s one of those silent blokes that don’t make a peep during sex.
- My favorite move is to grasp under the ridge and move his penis skin up and down. It’s easy and effective.
Pleasure The Head
- The head is extremely sensitive, and largely ignored during a HJ.
- The frenulum is the most sensitive part of the penis. It’s located on the underside of the penis where the head and shaft meet. Massage the frenulum with your thumbs in circular motions or use your tongue to stimulate it while you have his penis sausage wrapped in your hands.
Once you find your rhythm, keep doing what you’re doing
- Even if your hand is having arthritic spasms, keep doing exactly what you’re doing until he orgasms.
- Do not suddenly decide to cradle his penis, roll it like a piece of dough, or pinch the tip. If what you’re doing is getting him there, work it!
Now that you actually know how to give a hand job, give it the old college try, and I’m sure he’ll be grateful you did. Remember, sex toys aren’t only for women. She can also use some sexy tools on her partner like a Fleshlight for a warm, vibrating, and extremely pleasurable sensation. It’s always fun to mix things up, and a killer hand job is a great addition to your penis repertoire.
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