We recently read an article written by a guy about how every guy has a “girl who got away”. As predicted, the article discussed how every guy has some girl in his past who has come and gone and for whatever reason he just cannot forget about her. For most guys, its assumed that she was his first great love. So these poor guys (or poor every guy?) are left to live the rest of their lives to still think of her on occasion, why things went wrong, what they could have done better, and the fact that she is gone forever.
Are we the only ones who think that this totally sucks? Not only for the guy, but also for the girl! We can tell you that absolutely no girl wants to be the one that was f*cked over to the point of no return by someone who they were actually in love with. The older we get (lets just say post college and beyond) the harder it is to actually get excited about a new dating prospect. Love just doesn’t come knocking on our doorsteps every day, month, or even year. This little fact makes it all that much worse because not only did you lose a love, but you may not get that feeling again for a long time to come.
We may be setting our expectations a BIT too high here, but is it too much to ask for a great love to not screw up? Our inspirational article discussed the situation where the guy who screws up; otherwise he still wouldn’t be spending his days thinking about this girl. Agreed. So in the case of guy hurts girl and they break up, if their relationship was so great, why did he screw up to begin with?! Its honestly kind of infuriating.
Is it a maturity thing or is it a guy thing? Why would someone risk losing this girl that he could end up thinking about for years to come? We are so quick to justify guy’s behaviors as just “being a guy” or “not being ready to be in a serious relationship”. For starters, when did “being a guy” equal “its ok to be hurtful or disrespectful to a girl you love”? Next, we realize that men mature more slowly than women, but come on! If you have a great girl that you could see yourself being with long term, what is really holding you back? Are you too afraid that after 7 years of bar trolling and finding ONE girl that you like after all that time, that you’ll be missing something at the bars?
Our advice to guys out there, young, old, mature, and immature: if you have a girl worth keeping… hold on to her! Man up and realize that even making a “dumb” mistake or just being “one of the guys” could mean years of regret! That girl you’re enjoying will most likely have those same years of regret, which sucks even more for her since it’s not her fault! So be a good guy, learn from other guys mistakes, and just try to not blow this one!
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