To blow or not to blow, that is the question.
To kiss or not to kiss, that is the question.
To touch or not to touch, that is the question.
What is the true definition of sex?
Is it man on top of woman, inserting his member into her?
Is that the definition of sex? Is intercourse true sex and everything else is just, well, first base, second base and third base, borrowing terms from when we were probably in 10th and 11th grade?
What is the true definition of sex?
A woman wrote in the other day and said this:
I went out on a date with this guy and I decided to just give him a blow job.
It was our second date and we were fooling around and well, I decided to unzip his pants and give him a blow job right in his living room.
He wanted to return the favor, but I didn’t really want him to do anything to me.
I felt sorry when I got home, as a matter of fact, I didn’t really feel like we had any type of sex at all.
David, is a blow job the definition of sex?
How about we redefine sex right now.
Why don’t we say anything is sex. Why don’t we just talk about what sex really is. Sex doesn’t need to be man on top of woman, woman on top of man, and vice versa.
If you think about when we were younger, we were always pursuing sex. My god, I remember playing just the tip so often in high school. I would beg and plead and go “Just the tip, just the tip, please if I can just put the tip in.”
And all the rest of things we were doing. The dry humping. The touching one another. The getting each other off. I never constituted that as sex, as a matter of fact, I don’t even think I was having sex, but in reality, I was. You are.
Everything you do together – rubbing bodies together, touching each other’s bodies – is a form of sex because sex starts from the second you start kissing one another. If you go out with somebody, and you start kissing them and touching them, you really are having some sort of sex. It’s physical contact that’s there.
Think about it if you’re a woman.
A man kisses you the right way, and starts touching you. You’re getting wet.
You’re getting turned on. You’re having the same feelings as if you were having sex because you’re having the build up to sex. You’re experiencing desire. You’re just stopping the desire because you think it might be too early in a relationship, but yet, it’s still the same thing. It’s still a part of sex.
Sex is Foreplay.
Think about this.
You’re out with somebody, you have great foreplay for three hours, and then you finally have sex. Is the foreplay sex? Absolutely it is; but until you start having sex, you don’t think you’re having sex, you just think you’re having lots of foreplay.
It’s all really, to tell you the truth, ridiculous. The definition of sex is anything that you do.
What about if you meet somebody, you fool around with them, then you go home and you masturbate?
And you’re thinking about them. Does that constitute as sex? Or is it self-sex? Are you making love to yourself, are you fucking yourself, thinking about that person doing those things to you, is that sex?
We’re so caught up in our own judgmental minds about what sex is and what it’s not.
Sex is desire, sex is passion, sex is creating a story in your mind about what you want to do to somebody.
Sex is a conversation that you had with somebody because you’re turned on by them, so you end up talking about sex.
Sex is everything. Sex is the way you dress before you go out on a date with somebody.
It’s the panties you’ve picked out or the panties you choose not to wear.
It’s the bra that you put on. It’s the way you put your perfume on. It’s all a prelude to sex. Everything in our culture is sex. The way we dress, the way we design our cars, the way we do things. Everything is very sexual.
Which brings us to an important point.
Our sexuality is something we should never be ashamed of, at all. We should never hold back our sexuality, we should never try to heed our sexuality because sex is the way we all got here.
Just sitting here reading this blog on this computer right now that was designed by somebody who is only here because two people decided to have sex.
You’re only here because somebody decided to have sex with your mother or your father.
Look around your office, look around the train right now. Everybody is here because two people had sex and brought them here.
If you’re looking at your iPhone right now, staring at it, reading it, guess what, Steve Jobs came into this world because someone had sex and brought Steve Jobs here.
There are a million different definitions of sex and each person has a different one. So, you need to define it yourself, you need to find out what sex is to you. The big takeaway from this is:
Sex is the most natural thing in the world. It’s the most beautiful thing that you can experience with another person.
If you’ve got somebody who you think is amazing and they are willing to explore you, they like you and like your mind, then you know, the sex is going to be pretty damn good because you’ve got somebody who actually wants to be with the person that you are. The crazy nut that you are.
The complex woman that you are.
I’ve never been somebody that thinks sex should be over thought. Sex is something that’s the most natural, beautiful thing between two people; and if you think about it, if everybody was having more sex, actually really connecting with each other and being authentic, more relationships would be forming every single day.
We’re too stuck in our brains about what things should be. What the definition of sex is, what the definition of a relationship is and everything else. In reality, we should all take a day and start humping each other.
Think about that, if we all just started humping each other, the world would be a much better place, don’t you think?
