Is there even one guy on planet earth that has never referred to an ex-girlfriend of theirs as crazy? We think not, literally every guy has a “crazy” in his past.
An interesting concept occurred to us the other day over our Saturday morning almond milk lattes. What if that ex-girlfriend really isn’t crazy at all? When a guy throws that label on a girl, we all take their word for it. We listen to the stories and are entertained as they rattle off examples to support their case. More often than not, we probably agree that the girl is off her rocker, and even worse when we see or hear about her again, we probably further the word that she is a bit coo-coo.
When two people are in a relationship, it is impossible for anyone on the outside to understand what goes on inside. So why do we listen to the one side of the story, and label a girl as crazy? It is very easy for one party of a broken relationship to go on and on about how “crazy” their ex was, but how often do they mention any of their mistakes? There are two sides to every story. Always.
So, instead of throwing a “crazy” label on a girl, and rolling with it as fact; why don’t we try and see the truth behind this all too frequently used term. Yes, we all do crazy things in relationships, but what if sometimes our “crazy” acts are warranted by the behavior of our partners? What if there is such thing as a crazy curve? Meaning, a girls level of “crazy” within a relationship is directly proportional to her boyfriends actions in their relationship.
For starters, lets all acknowledge that being in love or in a relationship is a highly charged emotional situation. That being said, we all sometimes let our emotions lead us to do things our rational selves would never even think consider. Take for example; if a girl goes through her boyfriends phone. Yes, this is a crazy thing for anyone to do, and trust should be present in a relationship for it to work. But, what if it’s not? What if this girl had seen him behaving inappropriately with another girl at a bar, or he had cheated, or he always got strange calls in the middle of the night. We bet that a girl in any of these situations would not be able to resist the temptation, and would creep through his phone.
Beyond the fact that going through a phone, or any personal information is a no-no (duh) can you really fault her for doing it? In the skeptical mind of a girl who is unsure about the current status of her relationship, sometimes sitting back and doing nothing is not an option. She either wants to know if she can put her doubts to bed, or if her doubts were warranted and she absolutely can’t trust her guy.
If the crazy curve really does indeed exist, then are these “crazy” acts really even that bad? No doubt that every girl in America has probably done a thing or two in a relationship that could be classified as “crazy”. Instead of rolling with this label against our fellow females, lets consider the crazy curve, and remember that maybe this girl isn’t really “crazy” at all.
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