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Well here we are folks, October.
In most cities, when the seasons change they are usually marked by the turning of leaves, cooler weather or people wearing more layers.
In West Hollywood, the change of seasons is marked by gay men switching from tank tops to deep v-neck t-shirts, beaches to tanning beds and starvation to eating.
It brings me great pleasure to know that all the ab-flaunting guys in the city get a break and can finally eat a meal with out fear of an impromptu pool party!
But just as I begin to breath a sigh of relief, several status updates on Facebook begin to string together a different story.
“Is now Single” is the status updates on a few walls. Read more
Last week I outlined the top 10 dating obstacles that my clients face. This week, let’s talk about how I work with them to overcome these challenges.
Here is where my job as not only a matchmaker, but as a coach kicks in. Remember, a matchmaker is more than someone who sets singles up on dates. A major aspect of the job is to support and coach clients every step of the way-- including before the dating process begins. Read more
A little while back, I met someone.
Online of all places. Despite my jaded view of internet dating, this summer while my son was at camp, I met a woman I liked. A lot. Not because she was hot, which she was, but because when we looked at each other, when we kissed, there was something…electric. Special. In the years since my divorce, I haven’t felt like this before.
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I was out to dinner with a few of my girlfriends this week and I was explaining to one of my single friends my criteria for knowing if a man is a keeper. Another friend was listening in and said, “Patti, what you’re describing isn’t a keeper! He sounds like a sleeper!” It’s true that the criteria I talk about most for identifying a long-term guy are kinda snoozy.
I mean, financial philosophies, spiritual beliefs and five-year goals aren’t exactly the plots of action adventure movies. But, of course there’s a difference between a keeper and a sleeper. Your forever guy has to be more than a checklist. He has to make your heart sing! Or rap! Or beatbox! Whatever your heart does when it’s happy.
So, if your guy has all of the elements of a keeper, but you’re not sure if he’s really the one, here are some essential (and not boring) things to consider before committing to him. Read more
“Why haven’t I found ‘the one’?”
This is a question that I hear in my office on a pretty consistent basis. Singles who work with me sometimes wonder what they have been doing wrong. They are confused about why love hasn’t found them yet, and how they can move forward to find love now. As a matchmaker, my first job is always to get to know my client. I encourage them to open up in order to learn more about themselves and who their best match would be. We work together to discover what hasn’t worked for them in the past so that we can agree on a resolution for the future. Read more
To dump or not to dump? If that’s the question bouncing around your brain, you’ve come to the right place. Here are 10 reasons you need to kick your man to the curb immediately. If any of these apply to you, run, do not walk, to the nearest break up conversation.
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