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There’s no rule that states a first date has to be dinner and a movie or a drink at a bar, yet I find that the overwhelming majority of my clients will choose one of these activities if left to their own devices. This is where my job as a dating and relationship expert kicks in. My help to clients doesn’t just extend to finding them a match; I also try to steer my clients away from generic dating ideas and help them find activities that are more personal, more engaging, and hopefully more fun! Read more
Sometimes, the hardest part about dating isn’t finding a date, but knowing what to do once you are on it. First dates can be especially tricky. Everyone feels nervous and worried about making a good impression.
After hearing thousands of dating stories, some more successful than others, I thought I’d share some top tips to ensure your first date goes smoothly, and that you make the best impression possible. Read more
We’ve all blurted out something inappropriate on a first date, whether you rehash the time you were stoned and ate your grandma’s Birthday cake, or admit you got dumped by your last three partners for being too needy. Of course, that is not to say you shouldn’t be yourself. Just follow these 5 Tips for a First Date and you should be okay! Unless you have an incredibly dull personality (just kidding, you’re great). Read more
Patti always says stay on neutral subjects on first dates. What are some safe topics you use on a first date while still getting to know your date better?
Beth 22, New York, New York
You just sat down for dinner or drinks and you either want to a) sprint out the door or b) you are excited to get to know your date better. You are going to need neutral topics regardless of the situation, or maybe a solid excuse to leave.
Here are some ideas for neutral subjects to use on your first date:
- DO ask him/her what qualities they find attractive in a man/woman and further it by asking what qualities are deal-breakers
- DO discuss siblings and family. This gives some insight into their family tree as well as how they grew up.
- DO ask about what kind of food/drinks you each prefer, especially if the date is taking place at a restaurant or bar. Sharing your culinary preferences is great because these topics are endless.
- DO talk about career plans. This will tell you if there is any ambition behind that attractive exterior.
- DO discuss hobbies and passions. Are they a couch potato on their time off, active, or a balance of both? You decide.
- DON’T talk about religion, politics, or past relationships on the first date. The idea here is to get to know the person better so you build a solid foundation with your date. There will always be next to bring in the heavy artillery to get under the hood of the car and learn what makes your date tick.
With all the games people play nowadays, how do you know if he’s truly into you?
Amber, 29
Seattle, Washington
I believe people have always played games—it’s human nature. The game has been the same, but the approach to dating has changed.Now, why do people play games? I never have understood why. The number one important quality that I see in someone is being genuine. It’s refreshing when those types of people come along. If you have to put on an act, you’re wasting time because your true colors will surface soon.
It sounds cliché, but just be yourself! Let people like you for you! You are not here to please everybody, not everyone will like you. The respect you earn in for being real with yourself and your date will take you far in life.
We have all played games before at some point and I’m not pretending I never have in my life. I learned from doing so that it is not going to help you find your mate. Life is too short, make the best of every situation.
So what's a good opening email when messaging someone on online dating? I can never think of anything to say besides Hey how are you?
Brooke,
Oxford, Miss.
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So, you're dating a shy boy. (You notice I don't use the term shy man.)
You're dating the guy. You've been on a couple of dates. And he’s just terrified to kiss you. You start thinking to yourself, “How do I get him to kiss me? What’s wrong with me?”
There's nothing wrong with you! There are just some guys out there that are absolutely terrified to initiate any physical contact with a woman. In fact, guys ask me at my seminars all the time, “How do I initiate a kiss with a woman?” Read more
