Tag Archives: dating advice
People ask me all the time for ways to tell if someone’s good in bed.
In fact, I just got this email from a listener in Houston:
Dear Emily,
Do you have any tips for figuring out if someone’s good in bed before you sleep with them? The reason I’m asking is because there’s this guy at work who I always thought was really hot, but he had a girlfriend. Well, the other day he came over to my desk to specifically ask if I was going to happy hour on Friday. Then I found out he and his girlfriend had broken up! Now I can’t stop thinking about sleeping with him and I’m dying of curiosity. Are there any clues that might help me even though I only see him in an office? Read more
Yes…
Keeping a relationship healthy isn’t easy, but it’s worthwhile when you think about all the happiness and pleasure it can bring you. So what’s the secret to a successful relationship? I believe one of the biggest secrets to long, happy relationships is to manage your relationship with yourself first.
In other words, before you meet someone, you need to work out what YOU want from a relationship. I want you to take the time to consider these questions, and be completely honest with yourself. Read more
In all my years of coaching, I’m still amazing how many times women come to me with this major issue: Falling in love with a married man!
And the story always starts the same way. “There’s this amazing guy. We get on sooo well, and he makes me feel like no other man. I know he’s married and I shouldn’t get involved, but we’ve only gone out for dinner. It’s all very innocent really…”
That’s about the time the guy makes his play. Read more
Aziz Ansari is right! Text messaging has the power to ruin dating. The aggravation and exasperation he expresses to Conon O’Brien in this clip about dating in the digital age is exactly what I coach my clients to work against.
Back in the days before the text message, when a man called a woman and asked her on a date, he didn’t have the option of sending a quick note to cancel at the last minute. He showed up like he said he would, and they had the opportunity to communicate in person. There was intimacy in this process because communication was direct, respectful, and responsive. Read more
You meet someone new. You think about them all the time and can’t wait until the moment when you see them next. You can’t eat, sleep or concentrate. You check your phone a hundred times a day to see if you missed their call or text. You feel energized like never before, you have butterflies, feel nervous and worry about what you do or say when you’re with this new person. You’re in the romantic love stage of a relationship and it feels so wonderful and magical and you want it to last forever.
But it doesn’t. The spark faded, the thrill is gone. Now what? You may panic, wondering if you made a mistake or if you’re not meant to be together. You should always have those feelings for someone if you’re in love, right? Research says no. For every relationship, it’s natural and normal for the I-can’t-stop-thinking-about-you feelings of romantic love to fade over time. In fact, on average, it only lasts about 18 months. Read more
I was at the mall today and they were playing Christmas music! I know it’s not even Thanksgiving yet, but that’s the official start of Christmas season for me! (Yes, I let mall soundtracks mark important annual events for me. So, what?) The weather is chilly, the mood is happy and anyone in a new relationship is stressy! (And yeah, “stressy” is totally a word.) Anyone in a relationship that’s less than a year old around the holidays is definitely asking themselves what they should be doing as a couple for the holidays and getting really worked up about it. Well, fear not. I’m here to help! Assuming you want to head to your boo’s house for a holiday meal, I’ll show how you can make it happen. Read more
