What’s your favorite meal?
Now imagine having it every day, or even every couple of days.
No matter how great it is, chances are, you are going to start craving something a little different.
The same goes for sex. No matter how great your sex life is, doing the same thing over and over again will feel like a routine.
Here’s the good news: it’s easier than you think to bring adventure back into your lovemaking! To help you get the sex you’re craving, here are five easy ways to spice up your sex life.
1. Naughty See, Naughty Do
Watching porn with your partner is a great way to spark that sense of adventure. It’s a big turn on for the both of you, and can get you all revved up. Plus it’s a great tool to explore new moves and tricks. Pick out an erotic flick together and then see which scenes or moves turn you on and then take recreate in the bedroom.
Switch Up Locations
Craving a little novelty in your sex routine? Consider thinking outside the bedroom. Ever had sex on a washing machine during the spin cycle? Pressed you partner up against the kitchen counter? Spontaneous sex increases the lust factor, because it demonstrates you have to have them right then and there. Outdoor sex is another common fantasy, with the fear of being caught heightening the excitement and thrill. Feel free to be adventurous, or cautious, as you want- start off in your backyard, or on a balcony, then work your way up to racier locations.
Sex Toys for Two
Your favorite sex toy doesn’t have to hide in your nightstand. Inviting a toy into your sex life will provide an extra boost of pleasure for both you and your man. Bring your go-to solo toy into the mix, or you can shop together and choose some couples toys (my favorite sex toy for two is the We Vibe 4). Spice up regular doggy-style or spooning with a little clitoral stimulation by using the Mimi. You’ll see stars, and he’ll be just as pleased.
Play A Role
Role-playing allows you to let go of your inhibitions and explore your playful sides together. Start by dressing in your favorite seductive outfits, then graduate to taking on new identities and re-enacting your fantasies. Whether you’re throwing on a costume and a wig, acting out a student-teacher seduction, or going out on the town to play sexy strangers, role-playing actually lets you explore what it’s like to be- or be with- somebody else, while still being faithful!
Make A Sexy Wish List
Communication is the key to an exciting and satisfying sex life. Sharing your fantasies and desires with your partner will directly increase intimacy, and new sexual explorations. Many couples find the idea of opening the conversation a little daunting, so instead, make a game out of it! Sit down with your partner and make up sexy wish lists. Write down new things you would like to try with each other (ex: “I wish we could try rougher sex”, “I would like to experiment with bondage” or “I have always wanted to make love on the beach”). Discuss your desires and limits with each other, and then start crossing sexy wishes off each other’s lists! See how many you can knock off in a month.
Intimacy and trust will build through shared experiences, and honest communication. Talk openly about your current sex life and what’d you’d like to explore in the near future.
Remember: Sex is fun. Spark that sexual creativity and the possibilities are endless.
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