Let’s talk about sex, baby! Specifically, let’s talk about your orgasm and how to get your man to give you the best one of your life. Because, yeah, sex is about intimacy and creating a bond with your partner, but it’s also about having your favorite person in the world make you feel as good as possible. So, I talked to my favorite sexologist on the planet, Dr. Emily Morse, to get some tips to help your man give you the ultimate orgasm. She’s the host of the Sex With Emily podcast and author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight, which is a must-read in my opinion!
Masturbate
Emily talks to a lot of women who think “Someday my Prince will come and so will I” and she has to break it to them that they need to be their own Prince Charming when it comes to sexual fulfillment. “Figure out what you like and where you like it,” Emily says. And then you can be like an air traffic controller for your man, guiding him into the perfect landing. But, if you don’t know how to direct him, it will be a total crash and burn situation. So, get down with your bad self. You’re doing it for both of you!
Show him your biggest sex organ
The brain is what really holds the key to the biggest O of your life. It can’t just be physical stimulation. You need to have your head in the game for sex to feel really great. So, get rid of all distractions before sex and be sure to de-stress. “Your partner can help the process by lighting some candles, turning on a sexy playlist and even treating to you to a sensual massage. By the time the main event rolls around, your mind will be relaxed and ready to focus on the orgasmic task at hand,” Emily suggests.
Talk about foreplay
“Foreplay is NOT just a suggestion. It is a requirement,” says Emily. And I couldn’t agree more. Women need to be warmed up before an orgasm can even enter the equation. But, men don’t really need foreplay to enjoy sex. Emily explains it really well. “Men are like frying pans, while women are more like slow cookers.” So, you need to talk to him and explain that foreplay isn’t something you just like, it’s something you actually need. Emily says that 15 to 20 minutes of foreplay is the standard amount a woman needs to be ready for sex. Giving him your own personal timeframe is a really good idea so he can gauge how to best satisfy you.
Introduce him to your clitoris
Screw movies. They make simultaneous orgasm from missionary position sex seem like the norm. And let me tell you, it’s certainly not! For most women to orgasm from intercourse, they need direct clitoral stimulation. Sure, having your man inside you feels good, but not THAT good. Emily suggests trying woman-on-top positions for “a go-to move for orgasmic bliss” because then you’ll be in control of your clitoral stimulation. You could also go for any other position as well, and just add a vibrator into the mix for that extra clitoral touch. As long as your man knows that your clitoris needs an invitation to the penetration party, you’ll be in business.
I hope that helps your boo and you reach new orgasmic heights together. It’s never too late to teach an old dog new tricks when it comes to sex, so don’t be afraid to share any of these tips with him. And if you want to learn more about Emily Morse, check here out below.
Website: http://www.sexwithemily.com/
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