Do you find most your dates end up going nowhere?
Do find yourself sitting home alone on Saturday nights while most your friends are snuggling with their partners in front of a movie?
Have you tried meeting a man online but ended up disappointed?
Believe me. I get thousands of emails a week, and I hear it all. You met a guy who really wanted to be with you, and just as you opened up to him, he stopped calling and texting you. You don’t think online dating works. You feel like there are no good men out there. You feel unsexy and undesirable. You blame past relationships for ruining your self-confidence. No men approach you. There are no men in your age range available.
Honestly, I could go on and on for hours with all the reasons I hear. Do you know what’s interesting to me? Is that very rarely does anyone write to me and tell me they think they’re the problem with their dating life. Whenever I get emails, it’s always someone else’s fault.
Here’s the thing…
If you don’t have a boyfriend, it’s nothing to do with the men. It’s not like there are no men out there. There are millions and probably tens of thousands would love to date you. Do you want to know the reason you’re alone? It’s because of YOU!
It’s what I call, “The Mirror Effect.”
Generally, the way we feel about ourselves is what we project. Most the time it’s also what comes back to us. For example, if you feel you’re unattractive you walk around with an “unattractive” vibe. Your head is down, you don’t smile, you’re not open, and you don’t have a sparkle about you. If you don’t fill every day of your life with positive, loving thoughts about yourself, you’re not going to attract anyone. You need to start every day, telling yourself you’re the most amazing, beautiful woman walking the earth, and that any man who gets to date you is the luckiest guy around.
You have to have that positive mindset and attitude about yourself, or men will not find you attractive. So much of what sparks attraction between two people happens subconsciously. It’s all about eye contact, your smile, the way you hold yourself, and the way you convey your energy.
You have to have that positive mindset and attitude about yourself, or men will not find you attractive.
I want you to realize how important your own self-image is to your self-confidence and your ability to attract men. And it’s not about attracting any man, it’s about attracting the right man for you.
Work on yourself first, before you start looking for love. I want you to take the time to sit down with a pen and paper, and write down 3 positive things about yourself. Just 3. It can be special talents you have, or the fact that you like the color of your eyes, or that you can cook, whatever it is.
Everyone can find at least 3 positive things about themselves. If you can’t think of anything then ask a friend. Every day I want you to look at those 3 things and congratulate yourself for being awesome. Then I want you to keep adding to that list as you start to grow in confidence and stature.
When someone pays you a compliment, write it down. Look at it every day, and start to realize what an amazing person you really are. I’m telling you, there are so many beautiful guys out there, desperate to find women like you. It’s just a matter of learning to love yourself so your energy can shine and start drawing them in.
In my popular program for women, “What Men Desire” I dedicate a whole volume to the art of self-love and self-image. I talk about the importance of working through your past, and give you some simple tricks for becoming the most open, confident, and sexy version of YOU you can be. If you don’t have a copy, go check it out!
