When it comes to dating and meeting people, there are so many games that are played.
You hear people say all the time that you should play it cool.
You meet a guy who has high self-esteem.
He’s tall.
He’s successful.
He keeps himself in shape.
He’s well read.
He’s a good guy.
He’s a good brother.
He makes you feel really good the first time you go out with him. You actually feel like he’s listening to what you’re all about, like he cares.
His follow-up skills are great. He understands what romance is and he’s doing everything he can to make you feel wanted and desired. He’s doing everything right.
But the problem is that when someone does everything right, people don’t trust them. You don’t trust that it’s for real. You don’t trust that things will stay this good.
So what happens?
You play it cool. You get advice from your friends. But, you and I both know that your friends give you some of the worst advice when it comes to dating and relationships.
They’re not at all experts. They don’t understand your behavior as well as they think they do. But because they love you, they give you advice based on, well… exactly what they think you need to hear.
How Playing It Cool May Be The Wrong Move
Let’s say you’ve met a successful man, a man who knows who he is and who wants to stay successful. I mean successful in every way, a man who has clearly worked on himself. He’s evolved. Because, to me, being rich is not necessarily about how much money you have, it’s about how you live your life.
Some of the richest people I’ve ever met are some of the most evolved people. It’s not about having the most amount of money; they also live life richly.
So here it is, you meet this man and you play it cool. You’ve read somewhere, maybe on this website, that if you play it cool with a man, he is going to chase you.
Maybe you read a book that said men love bitches. Maybe you read somewhere else on the Internet that if you show too much interest and you don’t look like you’re always busy, he’s going to think it’s too easy. It’s going to be too easy for him to get with you, too easy for him to be with you, and then he’s going to lose interest.
So you play hard to get. You play a game with him. You play it cool with him.
And what happens? Every time you play hard to get with a man who’s evolved – a man who actually knows who he is, who values his time and values himself, who’s been around the block and knows what he’s looking for – every time you play it cool with that guy, he’ll look at you and think you’re far less evolved than you first appeared to be.
He’ll actually think you’re young in mind, young in spiritual growth, and young in the way that you handle yourself in relationships.
And what’s he going to do then? He’s going to think that you’re not on his level and he’s going to lose interest. The very thing you were afraid of in the first place.
Do You Want To Be The Cool Girl Or The ‘It’ Girl?
Play it cool. See what happens. The next time you meet a man that’s in, a man that’s spontaneous, a man that wants to get to know you, a man that makes himself available and understands what it’s like to romance a woman, play it cool and watch what happens.
Watch him get disinterested. Watch him think that you’re not as involved. Watch him think that you’re not vibrating at the same level as him, and watch him blow you off because he doesn’t need you. He’s looking for somebody who enhances his life, not somebody who challenges his life. He doesn’t need a dating challenge at all. He gets enough challenges in other aspects of his life. When it comes down to his personal life, he actually wants it to flow organically, flow easily.
Think about it. Do you want to be the cool girl and continue to be alone?
Or do you want to be the ‘it’ girl, the one who goes with the flow and is his equal in every way? The one he looks forward to seeing because you are moving at the same speed as he is.
Throughout my entire life, whenever a woman did not move at the speed that I was moving, I got disinterested. When I got disinterested, I knew there was somebody else out there that would be my ‘it’ girl. Someone who would be able to move at the speed that I needed her to move. Think about it the next time you meet him, how do you want to be? It or cool?
