Priorities change as you get older. What seems important in your 20’s and early 30’s (like the kind of car a guy drives, the clothes he wears, or the caliber of the restaurants he frequents) turns out not matter in the least once you reach your late 30’s and beyond.
When you are young and in the dating game, you think you have your whole life ahead
of you to find someone to settle down with. Sure a tall, dark, handsome, and slick
guy seems like someone to hold out for, but I promise that eventually your values will
suddenly switch to wanting someone who is loyal, honest, and who you can settle down
and build a family with.
The problem with this shift in priorities is that often once a woman realizes that what
she wants for her future is different than what she has been chasing after for so many
years, it is sometimes too late. All of the good guys are either already married or want
to date women under 35 because they want to have kids.
So don’t wait, looking NOW (or have a matchmaker help you!) before all the good guys
get scooped up! Here is some advice about how to recognize these guys and snag one of
your own.
What are these “nice guys” like?
A nice guy who will treat you well and settle down with you is often timid, or someone that you need to encourage a bit. He is not the guy who walks up to you at a bar, and is certainly not the guy who tries to sweet talk you into sleeping with him on the first date. He does not know how to play dating games, and he will call you the next day without thinking twice because he is excited to see you again. He is loyal, generous, and would make an amazing dad.
How do you find these guys?
They are all around you! Just open your eyes. Stop looking for guys who could be on the cover of GQ. Those guys will play games with you all
day long. If you want a healthy long-term relationship, then get away from the game
players. Prioritize qualities like honesty, humor, loyalty, and a caring spirit when you
look for a partner.
In the end it’s all about the kind of person you want to see every day and who is going to be there for you through it all. So many nice guys with amazing qualities get overlooked because they are a little quirky or not the movie version of a dream date. Believe me, these guys are the ones you need to claim. They are the kind of guys you can grow with, learn with, and even teach things so that they become your ideal partner
The moral of the story is, scoop up a good guy now. Find that guy who gets overlooked,
or is maybe a little quirky. I promise that the underdogs are a good deal.
