At this point you don’t have to decide anything. Just weigh what each side has to say. It’s up to them to make the best case.
Instead of yearning for an impossible love you discover that an impossible love is yearning for you. The fairytale reads quite differently when the shoe’s on the other foot.
Lock in commitments while people are willing to make them. That window of opportunity closes soon.
It’s not the time to bluff in business. Everyone knows you have a weak hand. Nevertheless you can still finesse.
What’s the harm in letting a loved one believe what s/he wants? The real harm would be in trying to debunk a beloved myth now.
You’re reading too much into an employer ignoring you. This person doesn’t hate you. You just haven’t registered on the radar. Make a bigger blip.