Online dating sites can be great places to meet your ideal man, but there’s a danger lurking around the corner, ready to pounce on the unsuspecting female mind. What is this online dating monster to stay alert for?
It’s mental masturbation!
“What the hell are you talking about David Wygant?” You exclaim.
Mental masturbation is what happens when you fall in love with a man online, before you actually meet him. You spot his profile. He looks so good. You keep going back to look at his profile. Every time you read it, you start to want him more. In your mind, he’s the guy that’s going to ride off with you into the sunset. In your mind, he’s going to get down on one knee and ask you to marry him. You love how he looks, what he says about himself, and how he describes his perfect relationship. He sounds like the most amazing guy you’ve ever met.
You’ve already started to have a mental and emotional romance with a man you’ve never even spoken to on the phone!
You’ve even started fantasizing about the things you’ll do when you’re together. You think about how amazing you’ll feel when he’s holding you, and telling you he’s so crazy about you. You imagine how good the sex will feel, and about all the things you want to do to him in bed. You count the days until you’re with him. You want to believe in all this so much, because you want him to be the one. You want to believe in all this, because deep down you’re desperate to be in love.
You have to stop the madness now!
Right now, this man is just an online dating profile and nothing more. Maybe he’s learned how to fill out his online profile from me. One of the things I teach guys about online dating is how to create a profile that stands out, and gets a woman’s attention. I always have women messaging me telling me how they couldn’t stop reading my profile it was that good.
You can’t judge someone until you meet them in person. It’s nothing but mental masturbation, and it will end in tears.
But here’s what you need to remember at ALL times. There’s a man behind this amazing profile. There’s a man behind the profile that you may not connect with. When you meet this man, your conversation may not come as naturally as you thought it would. Maybe you won’t even like each other when you’re in the same room together. It can happen!
You can’t judge someone until you meet them in person. It’s nothing but mental masturbation, and it will end in tears. How many times have you met a guy from an online dating site who looked nothing like his profile?
He looked tall and slim in the photo, but when you met, he was 4 inches shorter than you thought, and about 30 pounds heavier. You realized there was no attraction, so you made your excuses and went home. Within hours you’d found another hot online profile and started romancing THIS guy. Keep a rein of your feelings, and stop all forms of online dating mental masturbation!
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