I try to stay very open-minded when it comes to what men plan for first dates. I mean, the poor guys are under a lot of pressure. They have to do the planning, the prep and the paying. And it’s especially tough to plan something creative when you barely know the other person, which is normally the case on a first date. However, I don’t care how much pressure the guy is under, I still think there’s one spot that a man should never take you on a first date—his home. Here’s why.
Too intimate
Going to someone’s home is personal and intimate. And those are two words that I would not use to describe your average first date. A first date is about having fun, feeling out your chemistry and beginning to get to know somebody new. It’s not about getting as personal and intimate as quickly as possible. Stepping into his home before you even know if you have a connection is like having sex before you know someone’s first name. Just too intimate with too little of an established relationship.
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Guess what’s also at your first date’s home? His bed. And I’m pretty sure that’s the only reason a guy invites a woman over to his place on a first date. He wants the nookie. I know I don’t have to repeat this, but sex before monogamy is a big no no in my book. First dates should end in a kiss at the very max. And that kiss should happen on the outside part of a front door, not on the inside part.
The mystery is gone
A relationship is all about unfolding yourself slowly to your partner. You learn little things about each other bit by bit. Taking you home on night one is too much too soon. I mean, what’s left for the second date? Meeting his family? Dudes, don’t put everything on the table—including your weird collection of Superman figurines—on date one.
Creep factor
Going to your guy’s house on night one is just creepy. With first dates, you need easy exits. Who knows how the night’s going to go? You want to be able to peace out quickly if needed. Guess where you can’t do that? At his house. It’s almost like he’s trapping you there. It feels very Beauty and the Beast to me. Belle was basically a prisoner and then fell in love with her captor. Not romantic at all in my book and neither is going on a first date to his home. I don’t care if he’s doing something sweet like cooking for you. Save that for when you two know each other better.
Where’s the weirdest first date spot you’ve been taken? As much as I love love, I also love a bad first date story. So, don’t hold back. Lay your worst on me!
