Here’s something to consider. When you describe your perfect partner, how often do you include baggage in your list of desires?
How many times do you look for emotional issues in your ideal man?
The chances are you NEVER deliberately look for men with baggage, because baggage comes with its own set of problems. So what if you met a guy who was perfect in every other way, except for the fact he was carrying around something from his past that still affected him today?
Would you help him carry his baggage around with him, or would you pass on him to avoid the “hassle?”
Here’s the deal:
There isn’t such thing as the perfect man OR woman. We all have a past, and we’re all a mess in one way or another. That’s what makes us individual, special, and beautiful. 99.9% of the people on this planet come with some kind of baggage. The trick is not letting your partners problems start to affect you or your relationship. I’ve always believed we’re on this planet for a reason, and everyone we meet is here to teach us something about ourselves, and life.
That’s what’s beautiful about relationships. It’s also why I tell people to stop looking for perfection and experience life as it comes. Forget looking for the one, and learn to connect, learn, and grow with everyone you meet. So, here’s something you need to think about the next time you meet someone…
Would THEY be prepared to help you carry your baggage?
If you can cope, and they’re happy to help you with your baggage then you should have a happy, and healthy relationship built on the desire to help each other become strong, and powerful individuals.
Each relationship you have is there to help you shift one more piece of luggage out your “suitcase” until you have nothing left in there. When I’m dating a woman, I want to know I can help empty their suitcase one piece at a time. I want to help them unpack and make their life easier and happier. We’re only here once, and we deserve to enjoy our time as much as we can.
It’s something few people think about when they meet someone, but it makes a real difference to the relationships you have. If you’re with someone who has baggage that is too stressful for YOU to deal with, then you’re not the right person to help them “unpack.”
If you can cope, and they’re happy to help you with your baggage then you should have a happy, and healthy relationship built on the desire to help each other become strong, and powerful individuals.
When you think about it that’s what relationships are all about. We run into people when we most need them. Don’t you think there are reasons you’re attracted to certain men? Sometimes it’s you doing more of the helping, while other times you’re the one needing help. It’s all about understanding and working together. Once all your suitcases are unpacked, you can move forward together happily!
Then you can drive each other nuts and start loading each other’s suitcases back up for the next person to deal with! (OK I’m just kidding about that last part!)
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