You’ve just woken up, and as you lay in your bed, you start to hear this strange tick tick ticking sound. All the clocks in your home are digital, so you spend the next hour going out of your mind trying to figure out where it’s coming from.
You turn your home upside down, looking for some old alarm clock you’d forgotten about, and then it hits you! It’s not a mysterious old clock.
It’s your own internal “relationship clock” ticking! It almost feels like a real sound you can hear.
Women email me about it all the time, and all the time their age comes up as an issue. They start their emails with, “I’m a young 42 year old. I’m 50 but most guys think I’m in my 30’s” So many women bring up age as if it’s an issue.
It happens because women worry about their age more than men do. You spend all your life trying to meet and fall in love with “the one” and suddenly you start to feel your time is running out.
You’re desperate to settle down, get married, and have a family but you can’t find a man who wants the same thing.
Now you feel like if you don’t find love within a certain time it’s going to be too late for you. It’s something that seems to happen to most women. Something sparks it off, and before you know it, this imaginary clock starts ticking in your mind.
It doesn’t matter what your goals are either. You could want children, or just to settle down with a strong, loving man. Whatever the goal, you feel like the older you get, the less time you have.
It’s like there’s a time limit and once the timer hits zero you’ll be alone forever. Once you start worrying about this imaginary clock of yours, dating stops being fun and becomes something serious.
When you put yourself under all that pressure, men can feel it. We can feel you’re desperate for commitment and it turns us off.
You start panicking and making the same dating mistakes, you’ve always made because you’re under so much pressure. So what do you do about this imaginary clock of yours?
How do you finally find that man you’ve always wanted, without driving yourself crazy?
It’s actually a lot easier than you think. You just go back to being cool again. You go back to being that cool, carefree, fun woman you always used to be.
Now I don’t mean you have to start going to wild parties and having sex with random strangers. I mean you go back to being the fun, inspiring, and exciting woman you are at heart.
You see, when a man meets you, we want to know you’re interested in us because you like us, not because you’re worried about your tick tick tocking!
When you put yourself under all that pressure, men can feel it. We can feel you’re desperate for commitment and it turns us off.
You see, we want to fall in love with the cool girl. We want to fall in love with the girl who knows how to have fun. If a man is going to fall in love with you, he needs to know you’re falling for us too BUT for the right reasons.
We need to know you’re falling in love with us because we’re the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, not because you’re worried we’re the best you’re going to get.
No man wants to be with a woman who’s clutching at straws. You need to think about that the next time you start worrying about your tick tick tocking clock inside your head.
