Look. I’m not going to pussyfoot around here. You know I think men should do the asking when it comes to dates. It’s just nature. Men are hunters, and facts are facts. Men like to go after what they want, and even the shyest guy in the whole wide world wants to be the one who asks his lady out. So, no, it’s not OK for women to ask men out.
But that doesn’t mean that I think women should sit around in bandage dresses and perfectly straightened hair, just waiting for a guy to come to them. Not at all! Women can do lots of initiating. The moves a woman should make can lead to a guy asking her out and still leave the go-getting to him. Here they are.
Flirt!
Bat your eyes. Twirl your hair. Explain your in-depth analysis of Battle Star Galactica. Whatever makes you feel sexy! Starting a relationship is like a first kiss. It’s fine for the woman to lean in a bit, but she has to stop at a point so the guy goes more than halfway. So lean in with your flirting, but make sure that he takes at least 51 percent of the responsibility of starting your relationship by actually doing the asking.
Plan it… kinda
Make asking you out as easy as possible by planning the date for him. Tell him about this amazing restaurant you’ve been dying to try, a band that’s coming to town that you love or this fun festival that you’re hoping to go to. If he’s interested in you and a good guy who wants to make a first date fun for his lady, he’ll pick up on the hints and take you exactly where you want to go.
Hold out
Set some boundaries for yourself, and don’t cross them unless he asks you on an official date. For example, don’t kiss him unless it’s a real date. Sloppy friend drinks where you each buy a round are a no make out zone in my book. Or if he asks if you’ll cook him a sample of your famous chili, playfully tell him that you only do that for dudes you date. Let him know that going on a date means something to you by making it mean something to him. He’ll get the picture, and if he’s interested in kissing you or eating chili, he’ll make the official ask.
Ladies, what do you think? Can women ever ask men out and do it well?
