This concept has been preached about by countless dating gurus, a book was written about it, and a movie was produced, but it is always good to reiterate that sometimes… he is just not that into you.
I used to do the same thing that most women do. When a guy didn’t call me back or ask me out after what I considered to be a great date, I would immediately come up with a thousand scenarios about why that may have happened. He lost his phone. He was busy at work. He called but the call never went through! You name it, I just like all of you, have tried to rationalize it.
Save yourself the trouble and the heartache, and stop telling yourself stories! If a guy is actually into you, I promise he will follow through. He will go out of his way to call you, find a way to see you, and ask you out again. This may be a hard concept to swallow, especially when someone you liked a lot, or thought liked you, falls off the face of the earth, but please trust me on this.
When I was younger I spent so many years trying desperately to make things happen for myself so that I would find love. I’d make sure I was at the same party as my crush, I’d plan a whole arrangement so that somehow I’d bump into them, I’d call for another reason and hope that he would ask me out while on the phone. All of this planning, maneuvering, and talking to my friends about the details of these unnecessarily complicated situations got me nowhere.
He will go out of his way to call you, find a way to see you, and ask you out again. This may be a hard concept to swallow, especially when someone you liked a lot, or thought liked you, falls off the face of the earth, but please trust me on this.
It wasn’t until I realized I how little control over the situation I ultimately had that I became successful in love. My theory became this: if he likes me enough, he will track me down.
And wouldn’t you know it, when I met the man I eventually married, he did track me down. He kept calling, kept asking me out, and I never had to wonder why I hadn’t heard from him or when our next date was going to be.
Here is the take away from all of this. If a guy doesn’t contact you, choose a different guy who does! Don’t waste your energy on something that you can’t control. What will be will be!
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