This is an open letter to women over the age of 40.
I have spent the last two years researching the market. Doing my own social experiment. Not only with myself, but with many of my clients. I’ve never given the results of this until now. What you’re about to read is going to shock you…
I’m going to give you a little preview right now before we dive into the results.
Women over the age of 40 are so uptight.
I don’t know how else to put it. You’ve lost your coolness. You’ve lost your sense of fun and dating you has been a nightmare.
Now, that I’ve got your attention let’s talk about the details and how to change this un-datable behavior to date worthy queen.
1. Over the last two years I’ve been running my own social experiment with thousands of men throughout the country and I’m going to share the results right now and it’s going to shock you.
Shocking result number one:
79% of the women over the age of 40 that are actively dating are bitter and angry about what happened in the past (and they’re making new men pay for it).
Let me dive deeper into that.
Let me share with you what Bob, from Tennessee, wrote. It is the dichotomy of what every man has gone through–
David,
Every woman I’ve been meeting over the last couple of months seems to be making me — seems to be holding me accountable for all the ass holes they’ve dated.
A couple of weeks ago I met an amazing woman. She was really beautiful, really great.
We got along great. We had amazing chemistry.
She asked me what I wanted. I told her honestly what I wanted, a relationship, to fall in love, to find my life partner.
Three weeks into it, she was still interrogating me about what I wanted.
She told me she was fearful and afraid.
She didn’t want to get hurt again. I felt like I was in high school all over again.
When it came down to fooling around, we never did it. We made out a few times. Finally, I said to her, “Listen, I’d like to take you away. You and I, we can get together, we can really relate to one another, get close…”
She said she wasn’t ready yet. She’d been hurt before. She wanted to make sure everything is okay between us before we have sex.
David, we’re two months in. I didn’t even get to second base yet, so I felt like I was in high school. She wouldn’t go away for a weekend.
I told her I couldn’t do this anymore. I hadn’t done anything wrong. I’d spent the last two months trying to prove to her I’m not every idiot she’s dated in the past, but nothing had worked. So, I bailed.
David, this is crazy. This happens on a regular basis. I’m an authentic man. I’m real. I have a great job, I’ve got two kids that I love. I’m not looking to find another mother for them. I’m looking for my life partner. What should I do?
2. Bob’s e-mail is one of hundreds of thousands I’ve read over the last two years. That’s why my team and I have been able to put together these stats.
91% of the women that are dating over the age of 40 don’t truly believe that there are good men left.
How do I know that? Because every single man that’s been in this program of mine, have been reporting back to me, are all authentically powerful, great men.
They’ve all been coached by me, and completed my program. They’re all looking for a relationship. And to this day, 91% of them are still single and it’s not because of their efforts.
Women have all these preconceived notions, especially over the age of 40, that there are no good men out there. They love to listen to their excuses.
3. There seems to be some rulebook that women are following that isn’t working for men. They’re not sexually free anymore. They don’t have sex with the right guys, and when they do have sex, they pick the wrong guy. When they meet someone who is authentic, they put him through the ringer.
They make men beg, plead, and earn everything instead of trusting their gut instinct.
Woman over the age of 40 stopped being cool and fun. This is the problem.
I love women over the age of 40. It’s my choice of women to date. And I’ve gone through some of the same things with women who are so afraid to do anything.
What strong, authentic, powerful men over the age of forty are looking for — is women that are fun and know themselves. When they sleep with us, we know that you’re choosing us because of all the mistakes and everything you’ve made in the past, they feel honored.
Good men shouldn’t have to jump through hoops to gain your affection. When we are tested, we feel like now, women are putting us back into a high school mind set. Almost like you need permission from seven of your friends to even go out with us.
You overanalyze so many things.
Please, if you’re over the age of 40, you’re at an amazing time in your life. Let go, be free, and trust your gut and stop living in the past.
This is an open letter pleading to all of you because I, to speak on the behalf of all my brothers out there that have gone through this, just want to be with you.
Stop over analyzing everything and start trusting what’s going on around you. If you don’t you’re going to push all the good men away and keep picking all the bad ones. If you know you’re like this or any of these things resonate — or I pissed you off today I strongly suggest you get a little coaching.
Talk to somebody. If you don’t want to talk to me or a member of my team, talk to somebody else, but just get the stuff taken care of.
Life is so beautiful.
