Congratulations to you!
You’ve just started dating a Momma’s boy!
You’re about to play second fiddle to a woman twice your age, and take on the role of additional care giver. I have to warn you, being the girlfriend of a Momma’s boy is no easy task. Why? Because these guys are used to Momma doing everything for them, and now you’ll be expected to do the same. I speak from experience because my own Dad was a Momma’s boy. I remember going to Grandmother’s house during the summer, and she geared everything around him.
She would always get his favorite foods in, she’d never let anyone else near it without his permission. He was her king. When we weren’t with her, he’d phone her at least three times a day. They literally couldn’t cope without speaking every few hours. I’ve never known anything like it.
The other big problem with dating a Momma’s boy is that you’re always under the spotlight. She’ll be watching your every move, and no matter what you do, or how hard you try nothing will ever be good enough for her little soldier. And don’t expect her support when things get rough. Regardless of whether her son is in the wrong, she’ll always stand in his corner. He could cheat on you with a dozen women and it would still be your fault.
Is it safe to move in with a Momma’s boy? Only if you don’t like your own furniture. I remember hearing a horror story a while back about a girl moving in with her Momma’s boy. They’d gone out shopping and chosen all their own furniture. This girl spent a fortune making their house perfect. It was a dream home and just the way they wanted it.
A couple of weeks later they went on holiday and left the Mom in charge of feeding their cat. When they came back from holiday they discovered the guys Mom had “surprised” them, by getting rid of all their “old” furniture and buying them a whole load of stuff in HER taste. Let’s just say Thanks Giving wasn’t very thankful in that family for a few years.
Don’t get wrong, Momma’s boys aren’t all bad. They’re kind, gentle, and they know how to treat women. The trouble is they’re normally quite immature emotionally, and he hasn’t fully flown his Mom’s nest. You can try to grab him from Momma’s nest but she won’t make it easy for you. She’s had him her whole life, and she won’t let him go without a fight.
He loves this way of life. He loves her doing everything for him, and he’ll expect the same treatment from you. Are you ready to run around after a man-boy? Are you happy to come in from work and start making sure his dinner is ready for when he gets home? Are you OK making all the decisions for him? Are you cool to fight his Mom for his attentions?
If you’re dating a man who shows any signs of being a Momma’s boy you need to state your expectations clearly from the get go, and let him know you’re taking the role of his girlfriend and not his step-Mom. If he can’t cope with that, send him back to Momma. She’ll take him back gladly!
