When I first read about Robin William’s suicide, I immediately thought of the suicides in my family… not even a year has passed since the most recent one. Depression can take even the best of us down. It is not to be taken lightly. It is a monster, a big, powerful, unrelenting monster. Depression will come and go. It is rarely a constant in the life of one who suffers from it so it is important to manage it as best you can, stay one step ahead of it if possible.
Category Archives: In Your Dreams
Let’s talk just a little bit more about sex dreams, kay? So far we’ve covered sex dreams about the ex, the mystery lover, the co-worker and the boss. So how about we talk about the celebrity! Sometimes the steamy star studded dream can be just what the doctor ordered, the kind of dream you never want to wake up from, the kind where you are having a passionate tryst with Brad Pitt on the beaches of Puerto Vallarta with the rhythm of the waves matching the rhythm of your bodies... sigh. And then there’s the kind where you playing tonsil hockey with Carrot Top!
Last week we explored what it REALLY means when you have a naughty dream about a co-worker, so the natural progression is that this week we cover the “sex with the boss” dream.
The ex boyfriend is a very popular character in our naughty dreams. Even though it may be light years since you were with this person, he STILL continues to appear in your dreams, bringing those old feelings back to the surface that leave you wondering if you still may be holding a flame.
Jennifer, a 37 year old, happily married client of mine began having recurring dreams of having downright filthy sex with her ex boyfriend. She hadn’t spoken to nor seen him in over ten years so she was at a complete loss as to why he was steaming up her dreams lately. What I asked her is the first thing you need to ask yourself when you get a naughty dream about your ex boyfriend... Was he your first love? He was indeed! The second question was, how is the intimacy in your marriage right now? According to Jennifer, it was “meh.” Once every couple of weeks and sometimes once a month. Don't worry, I told her. It's not that you want him back, it's that you want what he represents back: excitement, bubbles, passion! Like Jennifer, you are likely to get these dreams when your marriage or current relationship gets a little too routine and humdrum, as all marriages do from time to time. Your dream is using your ex to remind you of the passion that is still alive inside of you. These dreams are actually good for you and are alerting you to the fact that the passion department doesn’t want to become a thing of the past. So if you are dreaming of sex with your ex, it might be a good idea to get thyself down to Victoria's Secret® and buy something red and lacy in order to kick up spice a few notches. Bring back the spice and the ex won’t have to pay you a visit in your dreams anymore. Sometimes the ex boyfriend we dream about does not have such fond memories attached to him. Sometimes it’s the ex where the relationship was abusive or ended horribly. In these cases, rest assured that your dreams are trying to help you overcome the past. I’ve had countless people ask me why they are dreaming of getting back with their abusive ex, why the dreams are pleasant when the relationship was so awful. The reason why is that your inner dreaming mind is trying to help you make peace with it. A lot of women, and men, who have been in abusive relationships have a hard time forgiving themselves for being in it for so long. They also cannot seem to let go of the anger they still hold towards the ex. This is something that must be let go of in order to have peace of mind. You certainly don’t have to make friends with the nasty ex, but you do need to make friends with yourself, your past self and your present self, otherwise you are likely to bring that anger and fear into future relationships. Once you make peace with the past and with yourself, the dreams are likely to stop. Have you had any naughty dreams about your ex? Post them in the comments below and I will try to address them for you. And stay tuned because next week we will cover the dreams about having sex with an ex spouse!
What the mystery lover dream means
Of all the dream themes we experience, there is none as emotionally polarizing as the sex dream. These dreams will either leave you with a spring in your step or an inability to look others in the eye the next day. Back in the Middle Ages, sex dreams were so shameful that people attributed them to Incubi or Succubi, male and female sex demons, who would molest the unwary while they slept! This far-fetched idea was likely due to a need to absolve oneself from the perversion felt upon waking… “Wow, that couldn’t possibly have come from my mind! Why that must have been a horny little demon trying to wreak havoc on my pure and Godly thoughts! Yeah, that makes sense. I’m going with it.” Read more
Last week we covered how the dog, the cat and cheating in a dream are the most common symbols pointing to and trying to help you with your relationship. And as promised, this week we are going to cover three more symbols to look out for. Read more
