We’ve all heard stories about couples who once enjoyed a passionate sex life, but now spend more time wrestling over the remote than having sex. Some couples even avoid sex like they are dodging a bullet.
Maybe this has happened to you at some point. You sighed and resigned yourself to having sex once in a blue moon because that’s just what happens in long-term relationships, right?
By the time we enter our mid-twenties most of us have a “type.” We’ve all got a certain look we like- whether it’s the endless hunt for someone ‘tall, dark and handsome’ or your tendency to date guys with facial hair, it’s easy to find patterns in our dating history. Sometimes, our “type” isn’t limited to the physical. You might find yourself being attracted to bad boys- the kind that break your heart and don’t call but you still return their text messages months later- that’s a type.
You’re in a relationship that doesn’t seem to be working, so you break up to get a better perspective- but then the minute the loneliness of singledom and the realization of being without your partner kicks in, you suddenly question your decision. It is normal to seek the comfort and familiarity of a recent ex, but when it turns into a recurring practice of breakups and makeups, can the relationship ever really recover?
Being able to please yourself is one of the most important steps in cultivating an amazing sex life. The great thing about masturbating is that you get to do it whenever you want and whether you’re in a relationship or not it’s important to know exactly how and where you like to be touched.
By Patti Stanger
