Category Archives: The Relationship Couch
Crap happens. A coworker pisses you off, you have an important deadline looming, and your family is driving you crazy. Of course you want to turn toward your partner for support and comfort. How a couple handles non-relationship stressors can help make or break their relationship. Read more
Would you date or dump if:
- You were dating a woman who complained a lot about things going on in her life.
- You found out the man you were dating still lived at home.
- Someone with your religious background asked you out on a first date and wanted to take you to a religious service or event. Read more
Yes and No.
Yes if you see Valentine’s Day as a mandatory time to express love – you go through the motions because you feel obligated but don’t honor or feel the emotional significance.
No if you use February 14th to make a big splash in your relationship and create an extra special connection. Then it can be worthwhile and memorable!
In fact, there are three levels of connection that you can use in your relationship, each a particular ritual. A ritual is a repeated and intentional action which can help you feel closer to your partner in both little and big ways: Read more
In my last blog I wrote about how love won’t necessarily come find you, so put yourself in situations to maximize your chances of meeting a potential partner. Although your surroundings are important, you also have to prepare yourself in order to meet someone.
One of the questions that I ask my single clients in their quest for love is: Do you believe that you deserve to have a good and loving relationship? What is your answer? If you expect good treatment and believe you deserve respect, you will get it; if you don’t, then you won’t. You’ll be much more likely to put up with bad or disrespectful behavior if that’s all you think you’re worthy of or that you won’t find anyone better. I have worked with many singles who, at their core, didn’t believe that they deserved a great relationship. So when they met someone who was drama-free and actually nice, they thought, “She is too good for me” or “This is too easy, how can this nice guy like me?” and ended any possibility of a relationship. Read more
Being single can feel miserable, and it can become worse when well-meaning friends try to make you feel better. They offer encouragements such as “There are plenty of fish in the sea” or “You still have time.” But one riles me up more than any others: “You’ll find love when you least expect it.” Let’s see….would that kind of thinking work in other areas of life?
You’ll find a job when you least expect it. You’ll find a home when you least expect it. You’ll get a great body when you least expect it. You’ll make money when you least expect it. Of course not. Then why should we take a passive approach to love when we don’t do so in other areas of our lives? We update our resumes, network and spend hours hunting online for a good job. We talk to realtors and bankers and get our finances in order when we buy a home. Although some of us have great metabolisms, the rest of us have to work out and eat healthy to stay in shape. And since money doesn’t grow on trees, we have to work for it, budget it and save it. Read more
It’s that time of year again – to make New Year’s resolutions. Your list may include losing weight, drinking less or saving more, but what about for your romantic relationship? Good ones don’t just happen naturally. They take time, effort and nurturing. To kick off your 2014 right, here are 5 must-have resolutions for relationship success: Read more
