Category Archives: The Men’s Room – Love and Relationship Advice From a Man For Women
I was having a conversation with a client of mine earlier. We were talking about her relationship with a new man she’s been dating. Things haven’t been going well, so we looked at whether it was worth saving the relationship, or getting out before things deteriorate. I asked her to write down all the positive things about the guy on one side of a sheet of paper, and all the negative things on the other.
She thought for a while and then started writing furiously. At the end of it, there were three things on the positive side, and ten things on the negative.
What was top of the list on the positive side?
GREAT SEX! Read more
So, you're dating a shy boy. (You notice I don't use the term shy man.)
You're dating the guy. You've been on a couple of dates. And he’s just terrified to kiss you. You start thinking to yourself, “How do I get him to kiss me? What’s wrong with me?”
There's nothing wrong with you! There are just some guys out there that are absolutely terrified to initiate any physical contact with a woman. In fact, guys ask me at my seminars all the time, “How do I initiate a kiss with a woman?” Read more
Do you find that the best way for you to relate to someone is via e-mail, or texting?
Do you feel you could open up more in an e-mail than you can in person?
Do you feel like you can express your thoughts better when you write them?
It’s amazing when you think about it. Go back 30 years and all we had were conversations. Now we have so many ways to communicate instantly without having to actually speak, we rarely hear each other’s voices anymore. I’ve had entire “relationships” where I’ve only emailed the person. Not once did we communicate by phone.
Is that the right or wrong way to go about relationships? Read more
Do you remember the '80s band Men at Work?
Here's what most women do. They give out their phone number to a guy that they're interested in. Then they make him work like crazy just to go get a date. Stop the madness.
If you give a guy your phone number and he texts you, respond immediately. If he calls you, call him back. Allow him to set up a date. If you have plans to curl your hair or get waxed, changed them. If you’re hanging around with friends on the night he wants to take you out, cancel your friends. You can drink wine and talk about failed relationships with them another night. Read more
I was training at the gym earlier, and as I watched a number of people training alone I started thinking to myself, “life must get lonely for some people.”
If you’re single, you wake up in the morning and you’re alone. You go to work, and you’re alone. You go training at the gym, and you’re alone. Then you go home, on your own.
On my way home from the gym I started looking into the windows of the houses I passed. I saw all the condos, apartments, and lofts. Where I live is in a Marina, which is mainly a loft district. As I looked in the windows, I could see people watch television, having dinner, and sipping wine, all on their own.
I wondered how many of these people were lonely. I know there are many lonely people out there. I know from the work I do. I read it in all the emails and letters I’m sent every day. In many ways, it’s very sad when you think about it. Sometimes life can be very lonely.
So what do we do to change it? Read more
I was having a conversation with a lady I coach earlier. She was telling me about a guy she started dating a while ago. He’s having some problems with his business, and he’s not dealing with it that well. She also thinks he has some anger problems too. He can be very aggressive, and speaks to her in a pretty mean way some times.
I told her he didn’t sound like the type of guy she should be with. What do you think she said to me?
“But David, he’s a sexy guy, and we have great sex”
I was stunned. Read more
