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5 Valentine gifts to get your millionaire man

How many bags of Conversation Hearts have you eaten so far this Valentine’s Day season? I’m going to plead the fifth on my number. It’s embarrassingly high. I tell myself that eating Conversation Hearts is basically a job responsibility for me. Anyway, Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and if you’re dating a rich, successful man, I bet you’re struggling with what to get him. Well, you’ve come to the right place. I have 7 ideas for gifts that will make the man who has everything feel like a million bucks.
  1. Cufflinks
This is a tried and true dude gift that never fails. Sure, every businessman has cufflinks, but there’s always room in a guy’s collection for more. It’s a really safe bet. If you’re looking for something nice, David Yurman always has amazing designs with classic appeal. For this gift guide, I found these amazing Tateossian Mechanical Watch Cuff Links that actually keep time. Awesome, right? He’ll definitely get compliments on them and think of you every time someone tells him how cool his style is.
  1. Scotch tasting
Scotch has always been a staple drink for classy men, but I think it’s having a real moment in the sun right now. I credit that to Mad Men. Anyway, almost every man would want to know more about scotch, so organizing a scotch tasting is a great gift idea. I found several options in my area just by Googling “Scotch tasting Los Angeles.” Look in your area and see what quality options are available. You could also talk to your country club about setting up a tasting or just chat with the lead bartender at the bar of his favorite steak house. It could also be fun to turn it into a social event and have several of your girlfriends give their men scotch tastings for V-Day and do the tasting as a group.
  1. A strip dance
Give your man something he’ll never forget, a very sensual strip dance. If you’re comfortable, just go ahead and do it. But, for most of us, a little instruction and choreography wouldn’t hurt. So, look up strip classes in your neighborhood or get a private burlesque tutoring session and practice your routine. This is a priceless gift that he’ll be very, very grateful for.
  1. Lingerie
Ah, the age old question…is lingerie really a gift for him or you? I say, who cares! It makes you feel sexy and him feel, well, all kinds of things! In my book, La Perla is hands down the sexiest, most luxurious lingerie on the market. And why not treat yourself to the best when you’re treating him, right? The Maharani Chemise is super sexy and guaranteed to make this a Valentine’s Day, or more likely night, to remember!
  1. Deluxe aphrodisiacs
Aphrodisiacs come in all shapes and sizes…and prices! There are some very luxurious and expensive aphrodisiacs out there that can add up to a really special gift for your man. You can customize an aphrodisiac basket to your man’s tastes, but if you’re looking for some suggestions, I have two deluxe options for you—saffron and white truffles. Saffron is one of the most expensive ingredients on the planet and, as it turns out, can be a real turn on! White truffles are another hard to source aphrodisiac that are delicious and apparently, sexually stimulating. Add these to some honey, for eating or body painting, high quality chocolate, his favorite red and a homemade version of sexy truth or dare and you have the perfect customized aphrodisiac basket for your millionaire boo. Hope that helps you ladies who are dating men who have everything. They’re a hard group to shop for! And no matter what gift you get him, if you make him feel special in the bedroom on Valentine’s Day evening, he’ll be very grateful that Cupid shot you two with the same arrow.

The perfect healthy meal to cook for Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a real pressure cooker of stress—expectations, romance, gifting and New Year’s resolutions. That’s right. Coming only six weeks into the new year, February 14th is often smack dab in the middle of people’s diets. And diets and holidays don’t typically mix. Diets and romance are hard to mix, too. Well, not any more! I’ve scoured the internet for some very romantic and healthy meals you can make at home to stick to your healthy lifestyle and celebrate ole Saint Valentine in style. Simple salad This is some intense salad making. She really gets into the details here, which I love. And I dig the basic dressing and how exacting she is with the ratio measurements. You can simplify this for yourself and pick up a bag of mixed greens or only do one green. But, don’t mess around with the dressing. It’s perfection. Make a huge batch of it and save it to use throughout the week. Roast chicken This is Glamour’s famed engagement chicken. The story goes that an assistant at Glamour made this chicken for her boyfriend and he proposed soon after. Then, three other women at the magazine made the chicken for their boos and got rings. So, Glamour printed the recipe in their magazine and 70 women from around the country wrote in to say they’d gotten engaged after making their men this chicken. I’m not saying this recipe will take you down the aisle, but a nice, perfectly cooked, lemony chicken sure can’t hurt the cause. Roast potatoes If you don’t think Jamie Oliver is cute as a button, I think we might have nothing in common. He’s so adorable! And his recipes are dynamite. Check out how he makes roast potatoes taste even better than normal. I love how focused on texture he is, too. That combo of crunch and creaminess just can’t be beat. Pick any one of these as a side dish for your special meal. Sautéed greens A nice dark leafy green is part of nearly every healthy diet, so this dish is a must serve. You can make this with spinach, like she does in the video, or another green, like kale or collard greens. The flavors and techniques translate perfectly to a variety of greens. Just sauté heartier greens for a bit longer. Green tea macarons Even when you’re watching what you eat, you can’t skip dessert on Valentine’s Day. So, here’s a healthy-ish take on dessert. Green tea has restorative properties that are beneficial to the body, but what’s really great about these macarons is that they’re really small. So, it’s easy to just have a bite and indulge without feeling like you’re wasting food or denying yourself a full dessert. Happy Valentine’s Day and happy healthy living!

Should you tell your man what you want for Valentine’s Day?

Valentine's Day is right around the corner. I’d love to wax poetic about how romantic the holiday is, and I do think it is, but the truth is most people view Valentine’s Day with dread and anxiety. And even though I’m a total softy and romantic at heart, I can’t blame them! Valentine’s Day is fraught with emotion, expectation and, all too often, disappointment. So, the big question is…to avoid the negative parts of Valentine’s Day, should you just straight up tell your man what you want on Valentine’s Day? Some people will tell you no, but I’m going to say a big old YES! Yeah, you should tell your fellow what would make you happy on Valentine’s Day. Here’s why. He’s not a mind reader Your man is a lot of things, but I’m guessing he’s not a psychic. (If he is, then I guess just skip this paragraph. Actually, skip this whole post! It doesn’t apply to you.) Even if he is the person who knows you best in the entire world and you’ve been together for umpteen years, there is no way he knows 100% of what you’re thinking and feeling. So, instead of expecting the impossible from him, why not give him a break and let him know what would make your Valentine’s Day as special as possible? Sometimes you need to teach people how to show their love for you in the way you appreciate most. Just because they needed that lesson, it doesn’t mean their love for you is any less or greater. Screw surprise Who cares if the nice thing your dude does for you is a surprise or not? I sure don’t. I just care that he did it. The not knowing about it before it happens isn’t the important part of a romantic gesture. The effort and emotion behind it are. Guessing what you want and surprising you with it is just the same as knowing what you want and giving it to you exactly how you expect it. He still wants to make you feel great, which is all that counts! So, don’t value surprise as much and your Valentine’s Day will be a much happier and emotionally healthier holiday. Romance is as romance does Yeah, I don’t quite get what that means either. But, it worked when Forrest Gump’s mom said it. So, I’m assuming it works here. Basically, you get to decide what’s romantic to you. Just because Hallmark and Kay Jewelers and romantic comedies tell us that in order to be our soul mate, a man has to know our deepest desires before we do and surprise us with special treats to be romantic, that doesn’t mean that it’s the truth. You can decide that your system of telling him what you want and then him giving it to you is romantic. And guess what? It really is! You’re not cheating here. You’re just taking back the definition of romance. Empowering, right? So, happy Valentine’s Day to everyone. And in case you’re wondering what I want for Valentine’s Day, I’ll tell you! A home cooked meal and a big box of dark chocolate would make my V-Day complete. Anyone going to make it happen for me?

What happens if you don’t get married

My big goal when working with most of my clients is to get them happily married. I have a very high success rate and spend a lot of Saturday nights dancing at my clients’ weddings. It’s really fun! That being said, marriage isn’t in the cards for everyone. Or, it isn’t in the cards right now for everyone. I’m 54 years old and I’ve never been married. I know my soul mate man is out there and I’m learning a lot of lessons on my journey to meet him. But, until then, I’m single and unmarried and actually very, very happy. So, I wanted to write Read more

How a psychic can help your (and my) love life

I’m open to any and all help in the love department. Even as a love expert myself, I need to seek counsel on my own life. Some people may say that’s a sign of weakness or that asking other experts for help means that I’m not good at my job. To those haters, I say get a life! Doctors have to go to other doctors for medical treatments. Therapists talks to other therapists when they need help. Being an expert doesn’t mean that you’re perfect. I’ve never met a respected expert who thinks they’re flawless. And I certainly don’t. Anyway, I recently talked to my psychic therapist, Tara Sutphen. She had some fantastic Read more

Should you break up or make up?

So, you’re in a fight with your boo and you feel like you’re at a crossroads. You can either break up or make up. That’s a tough decision you have in front of you. Both options involve emotional pain and faith in yourself. I’m just really glad I’m not in your shoes! Totally kidding! Of course I’ve been there. I so feel you. In fact, everyone who’s ever been in a relationship feels you. And, as someone who kinda recently decided to end it with a really wonderful man when it wasn’t working, I think Read more