Few things in life hurt as much as the end of a long-term relationship. It was all amazing at the start. You were in love. You had fun. You had passion. You couldn’t keep your hands off each other. It all felt so beautiful. It really felt like you could go on together forever and take on the world. But things changed. Maybe you got married, or had children. Maybe there was a family tragedy, or a house move that didn’t go to plan. Whatever it was, the passion is dying and the relationship is struggling. You feel alone, frightened, and sometimes even desperate.
So can you turn it around?
Can you save your relationship without going to a counselor? What if your man has already given up on the relationship? The first thing you need to do as a couple is look at where your problems are. What has changed? Why has it changed? What is now different? It’s important you don’t start blaming each other here or the whole process just falls apart.
Let me be clear, I’m not talking about petty problems in the relationship like you eat meat, and your partner’s a vegetarian, or he watches sport too much and it annoys you. I’m talking about dealing with the REAL issues. Yes, the small things matter, but most the time you’ll find those smaller problems are just a bi-product of the deeper issues you have. When did things start deteriorating between you? You need to isolate what’s really going on before you can start to fix it. Once you’ve done that, I want you to do the exercise I show you in the video below…
Start thinking of all the things that made you fall in love with your partner. Remember all their amazing traits and qualities you loved about him.
You see, one of the best ways to get the spark back into your relationship is to go right back to the start. Start thinking of all the things that made you fall in love with your partner. Remember all their amazing traits and qualities you loved about him. Remember how great things felt between you, before the rows and resentment. What you really need to do is to start dating each other again. That’s right. Imagine you’re getting together for the first time. Go on dates together. Have special nights in on the sofa. Make an effort with each other like you did at the beginning. The problem with most relationships is we start to take each other for granted.
We get caught up with life. The relationship becomes more about feeding the children and paying the bills, and less about finding time for love. “Starting again” is often the most direct way of saving a relationship before it’s too late. Does it work every time? I don’t think anyone can guarantee a technique or exercise can guarantee you’ll turn things around, but check out the video below, do the work, and you should have half a chance!
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