First of all, happy birthday, girl! Sounds like you needed SOMEONE to wish you a happy birthday since clearly your man is asleep at the wheel here. Ok, so it is (or was recently) your birthday and your main man totally forgot. I bet you’re wondering what that means about how he feels about you, where your relationship going and how you should handle this. Well, Mama Patti is here to help. So, just sit back, relax and read on, birthday girl! Oh, and get some cake. Everyone deserves cake on their birthday!
How long have you been together?
Have you guys been a couple forever and this is a small blip in a radar of boyfriend perfection? Have you been together for a while and the past few months have been rough? Are you two a brand new item and this is his first slip up? Has it been a couple of months and you’ve never gotten great vibes from him? What I’m saying is that you need to put the act of forgetting your birthday into context. The isolated incident alone isn’t going to tell you much.
What did he say when you talked about it?
What? You haven’t talked to him about it yet? Stop reading this immediately, have a chat with him and come back and tell me what happened. Did you feel like his acknowledged your feelings about this and was apologetic about anything he did to make you feel like junk? If so, that sounds like a keeper to me, bad birthday memory and all. Was he defensive, mean or dismissive of your feelings? Then ditch the birthday-forgetting loser and find someone who will treat you well, on your birthday and every day.
What does it mean to you?
Ultimately, you need to figure out what forgetting a birthday means to you. For some women, a forgotten birthday is the ultimate offense. And maybe your man forgot it because he was subconsciously hoping it would piss you off. Or you could be the type who doesn’t make a big deal about birthdays at all. A forgotten birthday might mean very little to you personally and you’re just wondering if it means anything for your relationship. You get to decide what your reaction is and how it impacts your relationship. Don’t let any outside forces affect what you think a good boyfriend should or shouldn’t do on your birthday. Only stick with a guy who falls in your personal “good boyfriend,” category, though. You don’t deserve anything less!
Regardless of how this turns out, I hope you have a happy, healthy and love-filled year!
