I’m sure you all know that while I consider myself an expert matchmaker, I don’t do anything alone. In both my business and my personal life, I consult experts to help me make the best decisions possible. One of my favorite experts is renowned biofeedback expert Lynette Louise. She’s actually referred to as “The Brain Broad,” which I freaking love! She uses biofeedback on a broad spectrum of challenges both at home and abroad, hence the name. Since I’ve found her expertise and insight so useful, both professionally and personally, I thought that I’d sit down and do a formal interview with Lynette for you all. I hope you get as much out of her unique take on biofeedback as I do!
First things first. A lot of my reader may not be familiar with biofeedback. So, what exactly is it?
Biofeedback is the technique of using technology to learn information about your physiology with the intention of correcting incorrect body and brain behavior. For example, people with migraines often have tense neck, jaw and shoulders muscles. Since their muscles are always tense, they misidentify this state of tension as being relaxed. Through showing them EMG graphs of their muscle tension, they are able to retrain these muscles and overcome their migraines. From pelvic floor incontinence issues to brainwave attention related challenges, biofeedback can teach you how to reorganize yourself into a healthier way of functioning.
Since this could be new to people, and new things are often scary, what would you say to anyone who is skeptical of biofeedback?
It’s too big a field to maintain skepticism! Biofeedback is well supported and studied for many disorders.
Fair enough! Now let’s get into the good stuff! Starting with info for my single gals (and me!). How can biofeedback improve the love life of someone who’s single?
Well now we are talking about something special I do! I use biofeedback to help retrain habits. Romantic mistakes are simply bad habits we learned based on the misinformation and fairy tales we grew up on. For example, a lot of people pick mates that they don’t actually want or need. I can help a person identify the mate they really want, instead of the one they are habitually picking. Once we have that ideal mate in mind, I use neurofeedback (biofeedback for the brain) to interrupt the old emotional patterns. The goal there is to shift their thinking so their ‘turn ons’ become more compatible with this ideal mate. With the biofeedback training, they’ll eventually respond to a more appropriate match. Additionally, with some biofeedback, people are generally ‘brighter,’ ‘warmer’ and ‘more appealing’ because their stress levels have dropped and their focus and attention have increased.
And what about for my readers who are in relationships? How can biofeedback help them?
If your relationship feels like a good match but it isn’t going as smoothly as you’d like, there is likely a behavioral reason for that. You could possibly have a commitment issue or maybe a trust issue. Perhaps you feel jealous or suffered abuse in your past. You could be unknowingly telegraphing your fears and ruining the happiness of your relationship. Biofeedback can help with issues like these. And if you don’t really have an issue in your relationship but you just want more…well, you know, I can always increase your libido. That’s a good one!
What’s your favorite story where you helped someone with their love life using biofeedback?
My favorite is a man who had had a stroke and couldn’t respond sexually to his wife anymore. They were considering surrogate sex partnering so that she could feel satisfied but weren’t comfortable with the idea. The problem was causing a lot of fighting and tension. It turned out that the man’s sensory neurons which corresponded to his genitals were damaged by the stroke. Using biofeedback, I encouraged activity in that area of the brain and that really helped the situation. I was also able to use biofeedback on the wife to minimize her panic and reduced her fear. The couple became very amorous and are still happily together.
If someone isn’t lucky enough to know you, what’s the easiest way for a person to access biofeedback? Do they have to go to a trained professional, or can they learn to do it themselves?
There are home units for minor issues that can be purchased, but it really takes a trained professional to be creative enough and supportive enough to apply biofeedback for love. Most small home devices for biofeedback are for heart rate, temperature or breathing.
I hope that you found that helpful! I always enjoy chatting with Lynette. If you’re interested in working with or contacting Lynette, I’ll put all of her information below. She’s the real deal! She’ll come to your home, identify your issues, treat you with biofeedback and can even teach you how to do some elements of biofeedback yourself. Afterwards, she’ll be in touch with you and track your progress via e-mail.
More about Lynette: Lynette Louise, MS BCN BCN-T, travels worldwide helping clients, changing lives, speaking, writing and performing on the subject of the brain. Lynette, aka The Brain Broad, has raised eight children (six adopted, five formerly disabled) and healed many more. She has two popular podcasts and a web series on different aspects of brain behavior. For more information on Lynette, check out:
(Author’s note: This interview was slightly edited to be as easy to read as possible.)
