Hello, hello! And happy 2014. I have a good feeling about this year! A very, very good feeling! I think it’s going to be a super one for me and for all of you guys. What better way to kick it off than with some relationship Q&As from #AskPatti? So, let’s dive in, shall we?
Tough love alert: Nope. You’ve kind of screwed the pooch here, sister. Once a man sees you as his “good time gal,” he’ll never be able to see you as something more serious. That’s why I always tell my clients to wait until monogamy for sex. Sex before monogamy sets you up to never be monogamous. I hate to sound like everyone in world’s mother here, but why would he buy the cow when he’s getting the milk for free? My advice is to cut it off with this booty call dude and look for your new boo. Once you find him, don’t sleep with him until you’ve had the monogamy conversation.
Whoa. More tough love alert: Kick this guy to the curb. You’ve been with him for over two years and he only sometimes sees a future with you? That’s absurd! If you’re with someone for more than three months, you should be able to see a future together. Break it off with this guy because he doesn’t know a good thing when he sees one. You’ll find a guy who will be excited for long term commitment and realizes that he can be independent and in love at the same time. Only immature losers think those things are mutually exclusive!
Gah! This is such a tough question and my answer is, it really depends. Personally, I’d never take back a cheater. Once you cheat on me, you’re done. But, I do understand why other people reconcile after cheating. Basically, you have to do what’s right for your situation. If you want to send me more details, I can offer more personal advice.
You can’t change other people. That’s just a fact. So, I say stop worrying about what they think about you and your relationship. Instead, focus all of that energy on making your relationship as fantastic as possible. If they’re good people, they’ll see than their son is happier than he’s ever been with you and all of their concerns about you, your distance and your relationship will melt away.
And with that, I’m off! Happy 2014! Hugs and kisses to all of you!
