Social media has undeniably changed the face of dating and romance. Not to sound like everyone’s grandma, but there was a time when you had to choose between being social and consuming media. Now, you can do both at the same time and it means that a lot has changed in the dating game. And while there are a lot of benefits I can go into, I’ll save that for another post. I’m going to go into the drama of social media and romance. Here’s why I think you should disengage from your boo on social media.
Jealousy
The number one thing social media has brought to dating is a huge extra helping of jealousy. This applies to women and men, gay or straight. Something about seeing your boo’s activities when you’re not together, even if you trust you bae completely, sets off alarms. It’s a completely normal and human reaction. But, that jealousy feeling can lead to some really ugly interactions with your man that he totally doesn’t deserve. I know you wish you were there with him for that romantic sunset he posted, but him watching a sunset without you actually isn’t a crime. So, just don’t make it hard for yourself and your man and don’t even look at his Instagram feed. Sunset drama completely avoided and you can go back to feeling blessed with the best boyfriend ever, instead of #blessed with the #bestboyfriendever.
It’s not real
Social media is social media. It’s not real life. But, it’s easy to think it is. All of those people who post about having the best husband or share pictures of grand romantic gestures from their boyfriends aren’t necessarily really happy. In fact, I’d bet that the more you brag on social media about your happiness, then less happy you actually are. And things you “do” for your man on social media aren’t that real either. Making him your “man crush Monday” isn’t the same as giving him a compliment in person on a random Monday. It’s not even close to the same thing. Social media clouds what’s really happening and really important in a relationship.
It’s distracting
Social media can take your attention away from what’s really important in your relationship. And what’s important is how secure, supported and loved you and your boo make each other feel. Everything else is totally non-essential. So, don’t get distracted by his online persona and don’t post stuff on your feeds to make him jealous or get a reaction. Focus on being good to each other in person and let everything else, especially everything digital.
Let me know below if you unfollow your man and how it changes your relationship. I really think it’s going to make a positive change for you both.
