Have you ever caught yourself saying things like, “I’m not into men right now. I’m taking a break from dating. I’m staying single?”
Have you said to your friends, “I just can’t be bothered with relationships anymore?”
Why did you say these things?
Did you seriously want time on your own, or did something happen in your past that made you feel like that?
See, I’ve been coaching men and women for years, and most the time the reason women decide they’re “off dating” is because they’ve been affected by their past. Maybe a man let you down, or broke your heart into a million pieces. Now you’re scared to open your heart again. You can’t take the thought of another let down.
Here’s my take on it. You should always date. Or you should at least be open to socializing and meeting new people. Obviously if you’ve just broken up with a guy you’re not going to want to jump into a relationship with anyone else, but why should it stop you meeting new men? Why can’t you be out there having fun?
No matter where you are in your dating life, I want you to stay open to meeting people. I want you to make sure the world sees you every day. When you’re out there, I want you to open your heart, because who knows when you’re going to run into your perfect guy.
You’re allowing your past to dictate your future, and you’re limiting your opportunities to find happiness.
You see, when you tell yourself, “I’m off dating. I’m not interesting in meeting guys” what happens is you close off emotionally. The only reason you close of like this, is because of things that happened in the past. You’re allowing your past to dictate your future, and you’re limiting your opportunities to find happiness. The past doesn’t equal the future, and just because someone hurt you before doesn’t mean it will happen again.
When you shut down, you could meet the most amazing guy in the world, and you’d blow him off without even saying, “Hello.” For all you know, he could have been your future husband!
So what am I really saying?
Don’t let your past ruin your future. Don’t punish every man you meet for the mistakes one of your ex-boyfriend made. If you don’t want to rush into a relationship, that’s fine. But don’t shut everyone out. You’re an amazing woman. The world deserves to see who you are, and remember, you could run into Mr. Right sooner than you think.
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