5 Times it’s OK for you to lie to your boo

You guys know that I’m all about open and honest communication. But, don’t get it twisted, that doesn’t mean I think you need to be honest with your boo at all times. In fact, I think a little lie every now and then can be really helpful for a relationship. Here are five instances where I think it’s OK to lie to your lover. And, if I’m being fully honest, I think you actually should lie!

About their friends

You don’t have to like their friends to love their friends. What I mean by that is you don’t have to actually want to be buddies with their group to appreciate them. These people are meaningful to your boo, so they’re meaningful to you. Just because you find one of them annoying or not smart or negative doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate what joy they bring to your boo’s life. So, as long as you don’t think their friends are bad influences or actually bad people, it’s OK to lie and say you like their friends, even when you really only like that their friends make them happy.

About their mom

Don’t be critical of your boo’s mom unless they open the floodgates. Until that moment, lie, lie, lie. Be easy around her, even if it takes every ounce of your self-control not to strangle her. By not complaining about every single one of her abrasive tendencies, you’ll be in a better position to ask for their help dealing with their mom when she really crosses the line. Think of these mom lies as doing your future self a favor.

About their body

We don’t all look like a Hadid sister in Sports Illustrated. (To be honest, the Hadid sisters don’t even look like a Hadid sister in Sports Illustrated. Hello, Photoshop!) But, that doesn’t mean we all shouldn’t feel as sexy as them when we’re in bed with our boo. So, make your lover feel like they just won the sexy Olympics every time they get naked with you. And sure, maybe they don’t have the sexiest body you’ve ever seen. But, you can totally tell them they do and not feel bad about it. That’s a 100% fine lie!

About their cooking

Take a bite and say you love it, no matter what. This is especially important if your boo doesn’t cook that frequently. Cooking is deeply sensitive for some reason, so be gentle with your review. And if gentleness means a lie, you have my full permission.

About your number

Your sexual history is your sexual history. You don’t need to tell anyone how many people you’ve slept with, including the person you’re currently sleeping with. Of course, you need to be honest about STDs and get tested for each other and be monogamous, if that’s what you’ve decided. But, disclosing your sexual encounters is totally not mandatory. And if you’re pressed on it, it’s fine to lie. (I’d also caution that someone who can’t respect your sexual privacy and forces you to tell them your number isn’t worth dating, too! Heads up there!)

Just because you tell a little lie every now and then doesn’t mean you’re a bad partner. In fact, it can mean you’re a really good one!