I know what you’re thinking: “Different kinds of orgasms?!? I just want to orgasm, period.”
The most popular questions I get asked from women time and time again is, “what’s wrong with me? I can’t orgasm during sex.”
Nothing is wrong with you. Only about 30% of women reach orgasm during penetration alone. It can be challenging for many women to have orgasms with a man’s penis alone (sorry, guys).
The amazing news is you can have an orgasm during sex if you pay more attention to your clitoris. There are so many types of orgasms you can have, and you don’t even need a partner to experience them.
Now, let’s talk about all the different orgasms you can experience. Once you find your orgasmic groove, the possibilities are endless.
Here are some different orgasms you should experience MULTIPLE times in your lifetime.
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Clitoral Orgasm
Most women need external, clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. This is why it’s so difficult for women to orgasm during sex. Most sex positions focus on internal stimulation, without giving the clitoris the loving it requires. This can be easily solved by rubbing your clitoris during sex, having your partner use their hands, or by having sex in positions that give you the stimulation you need. Try using a vibrator during sex for some extra oomph to get you over the edge.
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Internal Orgasm
If you’re not having internal orgasms during sex with your partner, you can still have fun finding your G-spot.
Some women can orgasm as a direct result of penetration. I want to give you G-spot ladies a big hug for all your good fortune.
If you’re not having internal orgasms during sex with your partner, you can still have fun finding your G-spot. Make a come hither motion with your fingers inside your vagina. The G-spot is a little bump roughly two-inches inside. Massage it with your fingers and explore new sensations. Better yet, invite your partner to give you a G-spot massage. Many women first discover their G-spot using fingers.
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Multiple Orgasms
The female orgasm is awesome because women don’t require a refractory period to recover between orgasms like men do. The orgasms can literally keep on coming all night.
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Sequential orgasms
Sequential orgasms happen one after each other with a minute or so in between. If you want to have sequential orgasms, make sure you’re getting a lot of clitoral stimulation. If you’re stimulated enough, your body will have no choice but to orgasm again and again.
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Blended Orgasms
If you can have a G-spot orgasm and a clitoral orgasm, why not have them both at the same time? This means you probably need a lot of external and internal stimulation at the same time. Try doggie style with a clitoral vibrator and let the orgasms roll.
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Bonus Tip: Kegel Exercises
Just like you work out your other muscles in your body, the pelvic floor muscles can be strengthened to help you achieve even stronger or more frequent orgasms. Everyone says you can do them at traffic lights or wherever, but who really remembers? That’s why I created my iPhone app Kegel Camp. Set a daily reminder on your phone, and you’ll be well on your way to orgasm heaven.
Remember, life is too short not to orgasm. Enjoy it, whether it’s your G-spot, clitoris, or the thigh master at the gym that gets you there.
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