The last thing you want to admit is that the guy you love is cheating on you, but sometimes there are signs you just can’t ignore. So what are the signs you should be looking out for? Is it all about new aftershaves and haircuts, or are there more subtle things to keep an eye on.
Here are just 5 of those signs…
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His phone disappears
It’s almost like you’re boyfriend doesn’t have a mobile phone anymore. He used to spend ages flicking around on it, showing you pictures, and sending you silly texts. Now you never see him with his phone in his hand. Most the time it’s hidden in his pocket, or even worse locked in his car.
This isn’t a great sign. If he also has his phone on silent, and only gives it the occasional glance, there could be something he’s trying to hide. Don’t panic, but consider some further investigation. Why would you keep your phone hidden the whole time if you weren’t keeping something secret?
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He starts schmoozing
Is your guy suddenly showing tons of affection. Despite what you’d think, when a man cheats he could start throwing out kisses and cuddles. This is a major sign of guilt, so only guys with some sort of conscience will show this behavior. Guys are big kids, and think how a child acts when he’s done something naughty. He’ll look at you with big guilty puppy eyes and nuzzle your leg.
Chances are this is what your guilty man is doing right now! -
He lets you go to bed first
You always used to go to bed at the same time. In fact, when you started dating he’d follow you up to bed like a loyal puppy. Now when you tell him you’re going to bed he suddenly remembers he needs to send an email or do something on the computer.
While you’re getting yourself all tucked up in bed, he’s probably downstairs texting or calling his mistress. Keep an ear out to see if you hear any whispered conversations. Not a good sign, especially if this new bedtime habit comes out of the blue.
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He covers his tracks
On the rare occasion you spot his cell phone laying around, if you check the calling history chances are it will be empty. You won’t find any text messages and all call information will be gone.
It’ll be the same with his emails, Facebook messages, and browsing history. Forget finding any credit card bills or receipts stuck in his pockets. He’ll suddenly start “filing” them or throwing them away. This is a clear sign he’s covering his tracks.
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He gets a sudden interest in shoes
Why’s he fallen out of love with those dirty old white sneakers he always goes around in? If you see your man in new shoes, beware! Most men have heard women look at a guy’s shoes before anything else.
New shoes are a sign he’s trying to make an impression on someone. Unfortunately, I don’t think it’s you he’s trying to impress. If you find a couple of pairs of new shoes in his wardrobe, alarm bells should really start ringing!
So you’ve seen at least 3 of these signs. What can you do about it?
The first thing is you need to resist the temptation to jump off the deep end. Tell him you want to talk to him. Let him know you’re feeling a little insecure, and tell him you’re worried about some of his new behaviors.
You see, here’s something you need to know about men…
Don’t forget, men are like big children most the time.
Yes, some narcissistic, arrogant, and cold men can cheat without fear and without emotion, BUT, most guys do feel guilty deep down when they cheat. And don’t forget, men are like big children most the time. Think about the little boy who broke his Mom’s favorite ornament and then spends a week worrying she’s going to find out?
This is how a lot of guys act when they’re having an affair. He knows he’s doing something wrong, and he does panic about you catching him out.
“But David, why is he having an affair?”
Well, this doesn’t have a straight-forward answer. Maybe he’s afraid of commitment, he could be re-enacting something a woman did to him in the past, he may be having a mid-life crises, or of course he might just be an immature man-boy who isn’t ready for a real woman like you!
The great news is when you understand the way men think, it’s fairly easy to tell you’re dating a potential cheat. How do you learn how to understand men that well?
In my successful dating program for women, “What Men Desire” I teach you how to understand how a man’s mind works, what their behaviors mean, and break down their attitudes toward dating and commitment.
I put the program together so you’d never again be confused by men. If you haven’t seen it yet, I suggest you grab yourself a copy now!
