If you want a man in your life, but don’t want to commit to anything serious, you might think a friends with benefits relationship is a good idea. Before you decide to become a man’s f-buddy, I should warn you of 4 common dangers of being a friend with benefits.
Some Men Are Selfish
Some guys will take advantage of your new friendship set up. They’ll only talk to you or come and see you when they want. They’ll expect you to be ready and willing when they’re in the mood, but if you want to see him on a whim, he’ll always find an excuse to let you down. Although you’re not in a serious relationship, you still want a man who’s prepared to give and take. Otherwise, it’s going to be you doing all the running. Who wants that in a casual fling?
He Might Stop Respecting You
Although these relationships should be fun and pain free, I’ve seen plenty of friends with benefits relationships get nasty. He won’t call you for weeks, then all of a sudden he’ll be on the phone begging for sex. He’ll turn up, pump away a few times, then jump off and head out the door. He’ll stop staying the night like he did at the start, and he’ll barely take the time to kiss you on the cheek and say thank you!
When a man pumps and dumps like that, instead of spending a little bit of time with you, it’s a sign he’s losing respect for you. Remember, this is supposed to be a friendship, and if he’s not taking the time to hang out with you, it’s a sign the relationship is taking a negative turn. In fact, now he’s really just masturbating inside you!
You Could Lose A Friend
If a friends with benefits relationship takes a bad turn, it could result in a lost friendship. If one of you feels mistreated, or unhappy with the way you’re relationship is going, things can completely breakdown. If you share mutual friends, things could get very awkward very quickly. Ask yourself whether you’re happy to risk losing a friend for the sake of some casual sex.
You May Develop Feelings
So many women say to me, “Don’t worry. I can handle it. I won’t start having feelings for him.” But so many times, after a while the oxytocin kicks in and the feelings come. What most women don’t realize is that men won’t date their friend with benefits. It just never happens. It’s a mindset thing that most guys can’t get around. If you think, sleeping with him is suddenly going to make him fall in love with you you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
If you’re in a casual relationship and you start to develop feelings, you need to get out, and get out fast! Don’t ask your friends for advice, and don’t try and force things. Unless you know for a fact your friend feels the same way, end things and go back to the way you were. Although friends with benefits relationships sound fun and easy, they can be extremely dangerous, and some can end as painfully (or even more so) than any other relationship with a man.
Proceed with caution!
