I don’t know how time moves like this, but Valentine’s Day is so freaking soon! If you don’t know what you want your man to do for you for Valentine’s Day, it’s time to start thinking about it. And don’t tell me you want to be surprised. Because guess what? If you leave it all up to him, chances are that you’ll be disappointed. I know movies and TV make it seem like if you’re in the right relationship, your man will know exactly what you want for Valentine’s Day. But, unless you’re dating a mind reader, there’s no way he’ll for sure know what you want. Telling him what to do for you to make you feel loved doesn’t mean that he loves you any less. It just means that he needs some guidance in how to show his love in the way that’s most meaningful to you. So, here’s how to tell him what you want for Valentine’s Day.
Ask him
Start by asking him what he wants. This will break the ice and let him know that it’s OK to talk about Valentine’s Day gifts. He might think the surprise-factor is important to you. If you make it clear that the surprise isn’t what makes a gift special, it will probably relieve some stress for him and open the door for him to ask you about your V-Day wish list. Another option here would be to come to him with a few options of what you’re thinking for his Valentine’s Day gift. That would give him a sense of the ballpark you’re playing in for price and scale so he can start brainstorming something comparable.
Spread the word
This one’s on the sneaky side, but not in a bad way. Either out and out tell his friends and family what you want him to get you and ask them to relay that to him or drop hints with them and hope they take the bait and share it with your man. If you boo has an assistant, call him or her and say exactly what want. On the real, the assistant’s probably the one who’s going to get you the gift anyway! You could also post something on social media that’s a clue to what you want. Or, if you have a couple that you’re close with, make a deal with your friend in the other couple that you’ll tell her boo what to get her for Valentine’s Day if she tells your man what to get you.
Just say it
My preferred method, with all things, is not to beat around the bush. Just tell your man what you want. I know it’s not romantic in a Hollywood way, but it’s still romantic that he’s doing something he knows will make you happy. Who cares that you had to spell it out for him? Sure, asking him for a specific gift or gesture could be a little awkward. But, direct communication is what keeps a long-term relationship healthy. A bit of awkwardness in exchange for long-term happiness, and the exact Valentine’s Day you want, seems like a pretty sweet deal to me.
I hope cupid brings you everything you want on February 14th! You deserve it!
