I recently made a new friend! Kinda of a big deal for me. It’s a rare thing to find a new soul sister. This lovely lady happens to be in her early thirties and on the hunt for her husband. She’s also hoping to have kids in the near future, so she’s interested in figuring out as early in a relationship as possible if a man will be a good father. She doesn’t have time to waste! Together, we came up with these three sneaky ways to tell if a man is going to be a good father that I think are pretty damn good. So, thought I’d share them with you all!
He’s good with responsibility
Some men are great with responsibility and some aren’t. If you’re dating a guy who has a great job, pays his rent on time and calls his grandparents regularly, you’re on the right track. He sounds like he’d be a great father. But, if your guy seems to always blame his boss for being too demanding, complains about how much attention his cactus plants need or can’t handle the commitment of a ten-day fitness challenge, he might not be father material. Kids are obviously a huge responsibility and if he’s shirking off commitments that are much smaller, he’s likely not ready or able to take the fatherhood plunge.
He’s emotionally available
Think about what makes a good father. For me, it boils down to making sure that your kids feel loved and prioritized. And kids aren’t subtle creatures. They know that they’re loved when they’re told and shown that they’re loved. It sounds simple, but not every man is capable of this type of emotional vulnerability. If your fellow is cold, but you know on an intellectual love that he loves and values you, that might work for you. But, I doubt that will work for a two year old. A good dad will be open and emotionally direct with his kids. So, look for a man who’s able to be like this with you and you’ll be on the path for daddy material.
He admits when he’s wrong
This is a huge one and probably the most rare for males. The ability to admit when you’re wrong displays a huge amount of confidence, insight and maturity. Ironically, being openly wrong can mean that the dude is very right in terms of fatherhood. It shows that he displays the right character traits for being a good father and also means that he’ll be a good partner. Being a parent is tough and involves a lot of mistakes. Being with a partner who’s able to admit when mistakes have been made and can problem shoot with you instead of dodging blame or refusing to change his ways will make the road a whole lot smoother for everyone, you, him and your kids! A guy who’s never wrong is frankly never going to be a good dad!
Hope that helps you as much as it helped my new girlfriend! Good luck finding an awesome father for your future family!
