Have you ever been on a date with a guy and he spoke too softly? You talked but the conversation didn’t flow the way you needed it to flow. You just didn’t feel the connection you are looking for?
As a woman, you are well aware of it. You need to feel the emotional connection. When you communicate, you need to feel like the man is listening.
You need to know the guy can have an emotional reactions.
When you talk, you’re emulating feeling, emulating thoughts, emulating things that are important to you.
The fact is, most guys don’t listen. Here’s why:
1. They Want You to Like Them
The man is sitting there like a log. You try to talk about sports, popular television shows, current events… Anything to try to connect with him, but at the end of the date it’s an incredible disappointment.
You didn’t feel connected to him at all. You know you’re never going to see this guy again because when you communicate, you feel like he doesn’t understand you. You didn’t feel safe.
Yet, at the end of the date, after not connecting at all, he reaches in and gives you a kiss. You do the bob and duck trying to move your head a certain direction. You might go chin to chin to avoid that tongue coming directly into your mouth.
And you push him away and you give him a little hug and say, “Thanks. Had a good time.” Then you hightail it out of there as soon as humanly possible.
2. He Can’t Read Signs
It’s almost like you were on two completely different dates. He texts you and tells you he had a good time. He tries to set up another date. You think to yourself, this man doesn’t listen to me at all.
How can he possibly think we have any type of connection? So, maybe you listen to some of your friends, who say give him another chance.
So, you do. The same date happens all over again.
He’s not listening. You don’t feel connected, but now he gets even a little more aggressive at the end. He actually invites you back to his house. You’re thinking where, how and why can this person possibly do this?
Once again, he tries to go in for a kiss. He tries to touch you a little too much, and you push him away. And you think to yourself, “I don’t understand this.”
The man didn’t listen, but he thought we were still connected. And this is where it comes to.
What this man wanted from you was sex. That’s it.
3. He Wants Sex
Most men don’t listen to women. Most men just want sex.
Sure, there’s a lot of guys out there that want relationships. But a lot of guys, no matter what their age, even when they try to have a relationship, just want sex.
They want sex in the beginning because they just can’t listen. They’re not able to. They get so clouded by their testosterone. They get so clouded by their desire that they don’t understand the connection.
It’s like we’re courting in two different styles. Men are like cavemen. They want to court to get you into bed and then get to know you afterwards.
And women are dating trying to get to know you first. It’s as if the two sexes are misaligned, and I know you have felt this so many times.
Here’s my advice;
Look for the Right Man, Not the Next Guy
There are a lot of men out there who do listen, who do want to connect with you, who do want to be with you.
Their brain, their heart, everything is aligned. The thing about dating you need to realize, you’re going to have these gorillas come out of the mist.
There’s going to be a lot of men just looking for sex. You need to eliminate the negative options quickly
One date isn’t enough. You need to keep an open mind, you need to keep going, because there are great, evolved men out there. You just need to find them.
This article is not about where to find them, because you already know through my dating programs and products, I tell you where to find the right men.
This post is all about giving you hope, and getting you to cut the ties quickly with these ape-men. These men go for sex first and relationship second.
It’s not the way you’re wired.
