Some people never learn how to kiss. Or at least they never learn how to adapt their kissing style.
You know the ones, their tongues dart down your throat or flaps weakly in your mouth. They kiss you with clenched lips or they open their mouth so wide your face is suctioned into their gaping mouth. It’s not too late to learn how to kiss with style. Here are 10 tips on how to give the perfect kiss.
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Slow Down:
Start with lips slightly parted and kiss his or her lower lip with your upper lip. This is not a good time to see how far you can stick your tongue down their throat. Spend time kissing without using your tongue, unless you both can’t help going at it like a bunch of wild banshees. For the rest of you lovers: take it slow.
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Take a look:
When the moment allows, stop kissing your partner for a second and look into their eyes. After all, you have to come up for air at some point. Eye contact enhances intimacy and excitement.
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Lighten up:
Throw in some light kisses between the more passionate, longer kisses.
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Mix it up:
You’re not restricted to just his or her lips. Feel free to kiss other parts of the face like the earlobes, cheeks, or even just one lip at a time. There are so many erogenous zones around the lips. Go find them!
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Mr. Big Mouth:
Gentlemen, remember your mouth is bigger than hers. Try not to engulf her with your giant man lips.
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Tease:
Go in for the kiss and right before your lips touch, pull back. Teasing makes your lover want it even more. Go in for the kiss again and barely brush lips. Spend time lightly touching lips and tongues together. After you build up the tension, go in for the full make out.
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Tongue tied:
If you have no idea what to do with your tongue, try sticking it out only halfway when you kiss. Leave tonsil hockey to sexually frustrated teenagers. Start by moving your tongue above and below your partner’s tongue. Don’t go too fast at the beginning. Fast movements often express horniness more than they express passion.
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Nibble and dabble:
Nibble the lip a little. Drag your teeth gently across the bottom lip without acting like a creepy vampire. Bloody lips and hickeys are not sexy. But sucking on your partner’s tongue is.
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Show me yours:
If you’re not sure if you’re an amazing kisser, ask your partner to kiss you the way they want to be kissed. Then switch. Now show them your best moves. If you’re dating someone who kisses with clenched dinosaur lips, this game will hopefully solve the kissing crisis.
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Never stop:
Spend more time kissing. Keep your pants on for a few extra minutes and make out. Remember how much fun it was to kiss when you were young and less jaded? When you spent hours just kissing and dry humping on a jungle gym. (Okay guys, I know dry humping hurt your balls but it was still pretty awesome, wasn’t it?)
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