To dump or not to dump? If that’s the question bouncing around your brain, you’ve come to the right place. Here are 10 reasons you need to kick your man to the curb immediately. If any of these apply to you, run, do not walk, to the nearest break up conversation.
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He disses you
We all know the difference between fun teasing and out and out disrespect. If your man is anything but complimentary to you on the regular, say sayonara to him. You deserve a partner who loves you completely and isn’t consistently cutting you down or making you feel crappy.
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You can’t fight
How a couple fights is a key factor in determining if a relationship if going to work out. If he fights dirty—name-calling, dredging up the past, giving you the silent treatment—then your relationship is a no go. You want someone you can maturely communicate differences of opinions with, not someone who whips out the f-word at the drop of a hat.
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He’s holding you back
A partner should add to your life, not take away from it. And while of course there is compromise in relationships, it shouldn’t be to the point where you’re not perusing your dreams because your dude is holding you back.
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You don’t like who you are
If you turn into someone you don’t like around him, get out. With one of my exes, I was always reminding him to show up on time, telling him what to wear and fixing his meals so he’s actually eat some vegetables. One day I woke up and realized I’d basically become his naggy mom. I hated being that person!
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You don’t like him drunk
We all know that I love a strong cocktail as much as anyone, but drinking can do rotten things to relationships. If you love your guy when he’s sober, but you’re not so into his drunk counterpart, that’s not a great sign. Be with someone you like sober, buzzed and bombed.
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Different family plans
Goals for family planning need to sync up between your guy and you. If they don’t, there’s no use going on a second date, let alone dating him seriously. If he wants kids and you don’t, or vice versa, do both of you a favor and end it now. It’s only going to get harder as you get more invested in each other.
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Money, money, money
Even though I founded the Millionaire’s Club, I don’t think how much money either of you has is an important part of a relationship. However, I do think your perspective on money is. Are you both savers? Spenders? You guys need to be on the same page on financial philosophies to make a serious relationship work.
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You’re not proud of him
This is a tough one to admit, but are you ashamed of your boyfriend? Do you constantly make excuses to explain away his less flattering qualities? Your partner should be the light of your life, a person whom you’re stoked to introduce to people. If you’re not, think about why long and hard.
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Unimaginable future
Be honest with yourself. Can you picture a life with this guy? And I mean beyond just a fancy wedding. Can you imagine waking up every day with this guy? Taking care of sick kids with him? Calling him whenever you have news, good or bad? If not, go directly to breakupville. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
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You clicked into this post
Why did you click into this post? Is it because you’re thinking about breaking up with your dude? If you are, I say do it. True love is something you know when you know. And if you’re not sure, it probably means this isn’t the one. End it as soon as you can so you can heal, get back on the dating scene and find the one!
A partner should add to your life, not take away from it.
